Nobody Gives a Damn How Many Followers You’ve Got

Apparently it’s easy to get zillions of subscribers to your blog – Just follow a few simple steps, work hard, and write good stuff.

I know this, because there are a ton of pro-blogging sites which are eager to dispense the wisdom of their own success whilst making you feel inferior for having less than 20,000 subscribers.

Unfortunately for many of us, the promise of multiple thousands of subscribers is unrealistic no matter how hard we try – sometimes because we work in less popular niches, sometimes because we just don’t have the available time, and sometimes because we just don’t have that magic mix of talent and luck.

Ultimately this leads to frequent disappointment among bloggers.

But the bitter truth is that blogging is not a hobby or a profession for those without perseverance. Continue reading “Nobody Gives a Damn How Many Followers You’ve Got”

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[Blogging Mindset] Emotions

It is said that it’s not the strongest fighter who wins the fight. Nor is it the one who trained the most or has the most experience.

It’s always the one who believes he can win more than the other guy. That’s it.

We like to believe in the opposite. We can measure a lot about a person, but we can never measure heart. Want. Desire. Passion.

How much soul you put into your words. Continue reading “[Blogging Mindset] Emotions”

[Blogging Mindset] Are You The Next Blogstar?

When I started my main blog back in 2012 I knew one thing and one thing only: I would never give up.

No matter what.

I thought that I’d better die trying than live with the regret that I could have, yet I was too scared and didn’t.

While the tactics and tips and tricks that make the basis of many articles on this blog are helpful, the bottom line always comes down to the work. Continue reading “[Blogging Mindset] Are You The Next Blogstar?”

Your Right to Be Wrong

For a long time I used to think being “right” was a big deal. I had to say the right thing at the right time, know the right people, read the right books, live in the right neighborhood…

I did all this not because I wanted to, but because I thought it was a prerequisite for success.

If you want other people to respect you, then you have to look and sound a certain way, right? Makes sense, if conformity is all you’ve ever been taught.

What no one tells you is the price you must pay for this. Yes, conformity gains you a certain type of approval from others, but it comes at the cost of losing your sense of self.

You have to systematically search out everything that’s a little bit “off” about you and bury it as deep as you can. You know that you can’t get rid of it — it’s a part of you, after all — but maybe you can hide it so deep that no one will ever see it, so that a world that only respects the “right” will never realize how “wrong” you really are.

Maybe, just maybe, you can fool everyone until you’re in a position of power and no one’s opinion matters anymore. Then you can be free. Right?

Umm… no. Continue reading “Your Right to Be Wrong”

Try This Crazy Trick to Become a Better Blogger

It’s 2019, and we spend more time than ever on our smartphones, computers, and basically any kind of gadget that connects us to the web.

We’re always posting, reading, commenting, sending Tweets, taking pictures and videos, checking e-mails, messages, and notifications on half a dozen social networks.

We go on Tumblr for a few minutes before bed and stop only when the sun’s up. We find something interesting or funny, and we want to share it with the world.

This is how stuff goes viral. This is how certain YouTube channels reach millions of subscribers.

This is how we keep in touch with friends and family, with folks from around the world we’ve never even met in person. Verbal and non-verbal communication has been forgotten and replaced by…

Actually, it’s not like that. At all.


The Trick is to Keep Human

Think about the bloggers that you like most. Ever wondered why? What makes them so special?

Do you like them because they constantly share with you information that is weird or funny or useful? Or do you like them because you enjoy how they write? Because you like the style of the author, their particular sense of humor, the way they turn a phrase?

A blogger becomes popular because they have a unique style and way of thinking. Here’s the plot twist: they were like that before they ever started blogging.

We like to think that this age of technology allows people to be anti-social, asocial, socially anxious, and still get along with others. Still connect with others.

If by others you mean some 7 people who are probably weirder than you, then yeah…

If you want to become a better blogger, you need to have a style and a voice of your own — and you can’t find that on Tumblr or Instagram.

Throwback to When I Used to Have No Social Skills at All

When high-school started for me some 14 years ago, I was pretty much socially inept. Big time. It’d be hard to even breathe or swallow whenever I met people. Couldn’t look them in the eye, couldn’t control my heartbeats. It was crazy.

I had no idea how to become friends with someone.

Like, I had no idea.

I used to spend an awful lot of time on forums, I was working for a gaming magazine at the time, reading a book a week, writing short stories… yet I had no idea how to talk to people.

So, I just did what I thought was a good idea. I’d tell jokes. That was what I was kind of good at. I always liked a good joke, and I could always remember one after reading it once.

How did that go for me?

Four years later I was the rockstar at my high-school. One of the most popular kids there.

I had developed a style, so to speak. I knew who I was, what I wanted to say, and how I wanted to say it. I also had the guts to do that.

Blogging is Simple…

We just tend to make it seem like this incredibly complicated and terrifying process.

It’s not.

Blogging is all about knowing who you are.

But there’s a catch. It’s really that simple, but it’s not easy. In life, people will always tell you who to be, and how to behave. And there’s an awful lot of poison being passed around as honey.

Like being told to “be nice.” It’s not the same as being kind, or good, or brave, or anything actually. It’s just pretending to be something you’re not, and you’re encouraged to do that for something called social harmony, which is one of the building blocks of what we call civilization.

Want to know the big paradox?

If you behave in the way that others tell you to behave, and you follow all the rules, and you act nice, and polite, and never disrupt the status quo, and you never raise your voice, and you never talk without being talked to, and you….

You’re not going to be much, really.

If you do the exact opposite, guess what?

Other people will pay your price. Will love you. Will laugh at your jokes. Will admire your swagger, your style, will listen to you.

Personality is what develops when you decide to break the rules, when you decide to be who you want to be, no matter who approves or not.

The stuff you should blog about is the kind of things that set your soul on fire.

What interests you?

What would you like to be if you could be anything at all?

What would you do if you could not fail?

Close your eyes and imagine the best version of yourself. Stand up, eyes still closed, and imagine that you are wearing a cape on your shoulders. An actual cape. Like all other superheroes. Imagine walking around with that cape, imagine people’s reactions, imagine your smile, imagine how you’d hold your head high, how you’d talk to others, how you’d act… how you’d treat others.

How would you act if you were the hero of your own story? The main character in the novel of your life?

That’s how you can be a better blogger.

Walk away from that smartphone/computer (after you comment on this post, of course). Go out. Have some fun. Make some friends. Sit on a bench and just watch life happening to other people.  Do something you’ve always wanted to do, but fear kept you from doing it.

Then write a blog post like only you can.

What Blogging is all About

Blogging has many benefits. And it can be a great way to earn a living, to inspire others, to change the world.

Blogging is also about problem-solving. Helping others to fix certain issues, to grow and evolve, to overcome obstacles in their lives, to become more productive, etc.

But, ultimately, and if we are completely honest with ourselves, blogging is simply about people.

That’s it. Continue reading “What Blogging is all About”

Blogging is All About People

Imagine meeting your favorite actor. Someone you admire; you’d very much like to take advantage of this opportunity and tell them how much you appreciate their work. You’d also want an autograph or maybe take a photo with them.

Instead of obliging, they start lecturing you on how stupid it all is. How stupid you are for asking for an autograph. They want to be free of this kind of stress in their free time. They do not want to be bothered by crazy fans.

How would that make you feel?

Now, let’s take a look at your blog. Continue reading “Blogging is All About People”

ANYONE Can Blog

Disclaimer: This is my reply to Jordan’s Are You a Blogger or Just Blogging?.

One of the things I enjoy doing from time to time is photography. Probably I know more about DSLRs and mirrorless cameras than I do about photography itself, but nevertheless…

Long story short, because cameras have become so damn good at taking pictures, nowadays the idea is that anyone can become a photographer if they’re willing to invest in the right equipment.

Buy an expensive camera, and you’ll be able to take good photographs.

Not great, but good.

So, yeah, anyone can blog. Anyone can create an account, start a blog, write posts, take advantage of all kinds of social media platforms…

To do all that you need a smartphone or a laptop. A decent internet connection. That’s it, basically.

And given enough time, you could become pretty good at it.

Good, but not great.

Because you know what it takes to be great? Continue reading “ANYONE Can Blog”

Blog Like an Artist

“When Van Gogh was a young man in his early twenties, he was in London studying to be a clergyman. He had no thought of being an artist at all. He sat in his cheap little room writing a letter to his younger brother in Holland, whom he loved very much. He looked out his window at a watery twilight, a thin lamppost, a star, and he said in his letter something like this: “It is so beautiful I must show you how it looks.” And then on his cheap ruled note paper, he made the most beautiful, tender, little drawing of it.

When I read this letter of Van Gogh’s it comforted me very much and seemed to throw a clear light on the whole road of Art. Before, I thought that to produce a work of painting or literature, you scowled and thought long and ponderously and weighed everything solemnly and learned everything that all artists had ever done aforetime, and what their influences and schools were, and you were extremely careful about *design* and *balance* and getting *interesting planes* into your painting, and avoided, with the most astringent severity, showing the faintest *academical* tendency, and were strictly modern. And so on and so on.

But the moment I read Van Gogh’s letter I knew what art was, and the creative impulse. It is a feeling of love and enthusiasm for something, and in a direct, simple, passionate and true way, you try to show this beauty in things to others, by drawing it.

And Van Gogh’s little drawing on the cheap note paper was a work of art because he loved the sky and the frail lamppost against it so seriously that he made the drawing with the most exquisite conscientiousness and care. ”― Brenda Ueland, If You Want to Write: A Book about Art, Independence and Spirit

What if the next blog post you write is your last? What if, for whatever reason, you never get a chance to punch those damn keys, to share your thoughts and ideas with the world?

What would you choose to write about? Continue reading “Blog Like an Artist”