The Worst Blog Post Ever™

A blank page. An empty Word Document. Saving an empty draft on WordPress. Just the title staring back at you.

You having a staring contest with digital white upon white upon white…

You want to get that blog post written — you really do — but the words just aren’t flowing. They’re not even dripping.

Your mind protests against this type of torture.  Your mind is as frozen as the surface of an icy pond. You just know that whatever you manage to type is going to be the worst piece of writing in the history of . . . well, writing.

But it’s not true. I’m here to tell you why you should go ahead and write The Worst Blog Post Ever™. Here are several reasons to stop worrying about the quality of your writing and just punch the damn keys. Continue reading “The Worst Blog Post Ever™”

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Your Words Matter

I’m writing these words for you. Yes, you. The blogger. The writer. The artist. The one who pours his heart out on a computer, smartphone, or even on paper. The one who writes one word after another with the hope of inspiring change in others, motivating them with your life’s story, or even providing them with a smile.

Yes.

I am writing these words for you. The one who feels so alone sometimes. The one whose words never receive a comment, maybe a few likes. Sometimes it feels as if it doesn’t matter, right?

Be honest. How many times have you thought of giving up? Just delete your blog, try something else. It’s clear that your words don’t matter.

Well, I am here to tell you that they do. Your words matter. Continue reading “Your Words Matter”

How Confident of a Blogger are You?

Every morning I watch a few motivational speeches. I mostly listen to them, but this morning I took extra care to watch (and try to analyze) the body language of various speakers. Body language accounts for the majority of your communication – not your words.

I know what you’re thinking: “That’s cool, Cristian, but what does this have to do with blogging?”

Read on if you want to find out. Continue reading “How Confident of a Blogger are You?”

Your Right to Be Wrong

For a long time I used to think being “right” was a big deal. I had to say the right thing at the right time, know the right people, read the right books, live in the right neighborhood…

I did all this not because I wanted to, but because I thought it was a prerequisite for success.

If you want other people to respect you, then you have to look and sound a certain way, right? Makes sense, if conformity is all you’ve ever been taught.

What no one tells you is the price you must pay for this. Yes, conformity gains you a certain type of approval from others, but it comes at the cost of losing your sense of self.

You have to systematically search out everything that’s a little bit “off” about you and bury it as deep as you can. You know that you can’t get rid of it — it’s a part of you, after all — but maybe you can hide it so deep that no one will ever see it, so that a world that only respects the “right” will never realize how “wrong” you really are.

Maybe, just maybe, you can fool everyone until you’re in a position of power and no one’s opinion matters anymore. Then you can be free. Right?

Umm… no. Continue reading “Your Right to Be Wrong”

How to Find Your Blogging Muse

A blank page.

There’s nothing more terrifying for a writer. Not an actual blank page, of course, but a Word Document with no words on it, that mysterious absence of words that is amplified by us staring at the white screen of death for so long that we feel our brains exploding.

You think and think and think, but nothing is happening, no matter how hard you try.

It makes you feel… powerless. Frustrated. Angry. Sad. Bitter. Sure, it’s your mind, your thoughts, your words, but there’s a bit of magic to writing, like Tinkerbell sprinkling lost boys with pixie dust and enabling them to fly.

No amount of happy thoughts will help you fly without the pixie dust. You need that extra bit of magic, that spark that makes your words take flight.

Where does that magic come from?

Well, from your blogging muse, of course. Continue reading “How to Find Your Blogging Muse”

Why No One Reads Your Blog (and What to Do about It)

So, you’re not getting much traffic, right?

I’ve been there, and well… it sucks. No other way to put it.

And worst of all, it’s not always clear why it’s happening.

It’s not like you’re a spammer. You genuinely care about your audience, and you try to publish content that’ll help them.

But nobody gives a damn.

And you’re beginning to wonder…

What are you doing wrong? Continue reading “Why No One Reads Your Blog (and What to Do about It)”

What Blogging is all About

Blogging has many benefits. And it can be a great way to earn a living, to inspire others, to change the world.

Blogging is also about problem-solving. Helping others to fix certain issues, to grow and evolve, to overcome obstacles in their lives, to become more productive, etc.

But, ultimately, and if we are completely honest with ourselves, blogging is simply about people.

That’s it. Continue reading “What Blogging is all About”

Try This Crazy Trick to Become a Better Blogger

It’s 2018, and we spend more time than ever on our smartphones, computers, and basically any kind of gadget that connects us to the web.

We’re always posting, reading, commenting, sending Tweets, taking pictures and videos, checking e-mails, messages, and notifications on half a dozen social networks.

We go on Tumblr for a few minutes before bed and stop only when the sun’s up. We find something interesting or funny, and we want to share it with the world.

This is how stuff goes viral. This is how certain YouTube channels reach millions of subscribers.

This is how we keep in touch with friends and family, with folks from around the world we’ve never even met in person. Verbal and non-verbal communication has been forgotten and replaced by…

Actually, it’s not like that. At all.


The Trick is to Keep Human

Think about the bloggers that you like most. Ever wondered why? What makes them so special?

Do you like them because they constantly share with you information that is weird or funny or useful? Or do you like them because you enjoy how they write? Because you like the style of the author, their particular sense of humor, the way they turn a phrase?

A blogger becomes popular because they have a unique style and way of thinking. Here’s the plot twist: they were like that before they ever started blogging.

We like to think that this age of technology allows people to be anti-social, asocial, socially anxious, and still get along with others. Still connect with others.

If by others you mean some 7 people who are probably weirder than you, then yeah…

If you want to become a better blogger, you need to have a style and a voice of your own — and you can’t find that on Tumblr or Instagram.

Throwback to When I Used to Have No Social Skills at All

When highschool started for me some 14 years ago, I was pretty much socially inept. Big time. It’d be hard to even breathe or swallow whenever I met people. Couldn’t look them in the eye, couldn’t control my heartbeats. It was crazy.

I had no idea how to become friends with someone.

Like, I had no idea.

I used to spend an awful lot of time on forums, I was working for a gaming magazine at the time, reading a book a week, writing short stories… yet I had no idea how to talk to people.

So, I just did what I thought was a good idea. I’d tell jokes. That was what I was kind of good at. I always liked a good joke, and I could always remember one after reading it once.

How did that go for me?

Four years later I was the rockstar at my high-school. One of the most popular kids there.

I had developed a style, so to speak. I knew who I was, what I wanted to say, and how I wanted to say it. I also had the guts to do that.

Blogging is Simple…

We just tend to make it seem like this incredibly complicated and terrifying process.

It’s not.

Blogging is all about knowing who you are.

But there’s a catch. It’s really that simple, but it’s not easy. In life, people will always tell you who to be, and how to behave. And there’s an awful lot of poison being passed around as honey.

Like being told to “be nice.” It’s not the same as being kind, or good, or brave, or anything actually. It’s just pretending to be something you’re not, and you’re encouraged to do that for something called social harmony, which is one of the building blocks of what we call civilization.

Want to know the big paradox?

If you behave in the way that others tell you to behave, and you follow all the rules, and you act nice, and polite, and never disrupt the status quo, and you never raise your voice, and you never talk without being talked to, and you….

You’re not going to be much, really.

If you do the exact opposite, guess what?

Other people will pay your price. Will love you. Will laugh at your jokes. Will admire your swagger, your style, will listen to you.

Personality is what develops when you decide to break the rules, when you decide to be who you want to be, no matter who approves or not.

The stuff you should blog about is the kind of things that set your soul on fire.

What interests you?

What would you like to be if you could be anything at all?

What would you do if you could not fail?

Close your eyes and imagine the best version of yourself. Stand up, eyes still closed, and imagine that you are wearing a cape on your shoulders. An actual cape. Like all other superheros. Imagine walking around with that cape, imagine people’s reactions, imagine your smile, imagine how you’d hold your head high, how you’d talk to others, how you’d act… how you’d treat others.

How would you act if you were the hero of your own story? The main character in the novel of your life?

That’s how you can be a better blogger.

Walk away from that smartphone/computer (after you comment on this post, of course). Go out. Have some fun. Make some friends. Sit on a bench and just watch life happening to other people.  Do something you’ve always wanted to do, but fear kept you from doing it.

Then write a blog post like only you can.

What’s Your Blog Really About?

When I was six years old I decided that I wanted to become the richest man in the history of the world. I kept imagining what it would be like: to be powerful, to acquire such vast wealth that I could do anything I wanted. How I’d own houses and apartments in the most interesting of cities, how I’d conquer the world one business deal at a time.

As I grew older I realized that I did not want it. I mean, I did want it, but I wasn’t willing to pay the price. It did not want the journey. I just wanted to be teleported to the destination.

The same goes for blogging. Some people think it’s cool to blog. To write some words on a computer or smartphone, and then have a bunch of other people read and cherish said words.

But they do not want to pay the price. To enjoy the journey. The long and lonely walk towards their destination.

They do not know what to blog about, they do not know what their blog is all about. Quite frankly, most of them do not know what they’re all about. Continue reading “What’s Your Blog Really About?”