If You Feel Like Giving Up, This Is Your Wake-Up Call10 min read

If you’re blogging now, and it feels like no one gives a damn about your words, if it feels like an uphill battle you can’t possibly win, then you’ve already given up.

Even if you keep posting content.

Even if you keep reading other blogs and networking.

Why?

Because you don’t think it’s worth it. Because you’re scared, disappointed, frustrated, angry. Because you’re going to throw in the towel. Sooner or later.

Well, let’s fix that, shall we?

There’s Nothing Passive About Blogging

Most bloggers throw in the towel the moment they realize how difficult it all is: how much time and effort is required of them to become successful.

The truth is… blogging is easy. Anyone can do it.

But to do it and be successful? To grow an actual audience? To have an impact?

It takes massive action.

Blogging’s not “passive income,” it’s not just writing when you feel inspired, it’s not just commenting once in a while on other blogs.

Lukewarm is no good.

Doing things at 50% is going to ensure you get only a 10% return on your investment.

But It’s Not Impossible Either…

If you believe you can’t, you just won’t.

It’s as simple as that.

While it’s certainly difficult, and I’m just not going to sugarcoat it for you, you can still become massively successful as a blogger.

But first of all, you’ve got to stop lying to yourself.

Stop lying. To yourself. To others. In the comments section of your blog. On other people’s blogs. In your about page. Stop lying.

“I don’t care if people read my stuff or not.”

“I blog for me, myself, and I.”

Lies.

“All the profitable niches are over saturated.”

A lie.

“The game is rigged.”

Another lie.

You can’t handle the truth because you keep trying to run away from it.

Impossible is only two letters too long, but, oh boy, how difficult it is to remove those two letters.

Don’t Settle for Average

Average always has an excuse (or several) as to why it’s not great. Great is too busy being humbled by the struggle to even have an opinion about its own greatness.

Most bloggers are afraid. They are afraid they’re not as good as they have to be in order to have the success they want, so they come up with a bunch of excuses.

I know, because I read about them every single day. It’s either some change in algorithms, some change in policy, or the system’s broken, and someone should fix them in order for them to get more readers or earn money.

Yeah, and I’d very much like to be able to levitate, but there’s this thing called the law of gravity, so I can either complain about it or work on building myself a plane.

When faced with external or internal limitations, we often try to brainwash ourselves into thinking that somehow life’s unfair. It’s not. The system is not broken.

It is what it is. You either learn the rules, so you can win at this game, or you don’t, and you lose by default. But no one likes a crybaby, a sour loser.

Or you forfeit, which brings me to my next point…

if it were easy…

Everybody would be doing it.

Yet, somehow, they don’t.

Most folks who purchase gym memberships never go to the gym more than a few times. That’s such a sure thing that even the pricing of memberships is influenced by it.

Now, let me ask you: how many people do you think give up blogging altogether even after having invested time, energy, and money in their blogs?

Do you want to know the answer?

The vast majority of them.

This is the type of statistic that often makes people want to give up, or just tell themselves that they are either blogging for themselves or blogging about such obscure things that no other human being could ever relate.

Take It One Day at a Time

What saves a man is to take a step. Then another step.

C.S. Lewis

When asked how he writes so fast, Stephen King said, “One word at a time.”

This is the kind of answer that no one believes in. And the fact that there’s an abundance of related cliches doesn’t help either.

A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. Or something like that. The Great Wall of China was built by laying one brick on top of the other.

All cliches. Terrible, terrible cliches that we can’t help but fear and loathe at the same time.

Want to know why?

Because they are so damn true.

Fourteen years ago, when I first started writing, I was sure writing was easy. You should have seen me, getting so excited about my first idea, working day and night on my story.

I knew for sure that I’d be rich and famous and that they’d be making movies after my stories in no time, and I’d become the youngest writer to ever receive a Nobel Prize, and they’d maybe even give me an Academy Award for writing a screenplay or something…

I never got to finish writing my first novel. As a matter of fact, tens of pages of that story somehow got lost, never to be recovered.

The first story I did finish, I published on an Internet forum, and it was unanimously and unceremoniously hated. Not even one person had something nice to say about it. Some guy said I was either fourteen years old or a retard.

Probably I was both.

Maybe there are but two requirements to being successful in life:

  • You’re either brave enough to do what needs to be done.
  • You’re so dumb that you have not idea what you’re getting yourself into.

But did I quit writing?

Of course not.

I kept writing. One word at a time. One day at a time.

First novel I self-published? Sold two copies of the paperback and two copies of the e-book. It received two reviews, one of which was from a guy who had only bothered to read the blurb.

First blog I started? I quit after three posts and no feedback whatsoever.

I quit writing after this. Not enjoying the success I had expected broke my heart in two.

But during the following months I realized something:

Giving up doesn’t hurt that much. What really, really hurts is to wish on a daily basis that you hadn’t given up. 

Every single night I’d struggle to fall asleep. All these ideas would still come to me, begging to be given life, begging to be written down.

What Happens When You Don’t Give Up

In April 2012, I got angry. I was sick and tired of it all: of being lazy, of feeling weak, of always giving up when things were hard, of feeling sick and tired and not doing anything about it.

I decided to give blogging another try. To write and self-publish stories and novels. And to never, ever, ever give up. No matter what.

And I meant it. I swore that I’d much rather starve to death and die writing words that no one even bothered to skim through than live a dreamless life, to wallow in self-pity and regret and this lethargy of feeling tired, barely awake to notice what was right in front of me.

So I wrote every single day.

Every. Single. Day.

I promised myself to never give up, and it may sound easy, but it wasn’t.

Only I know the things I had to eat (or don’t eat), and how I spent 15-16 hours a day working, and the resentment I felt whenever I couldn’t manage to sell a book or product or when I’d pour my heart and soul into a certain blog post only to get a few likes and some generic comments.

The road to success is paved with anger, bitterness, being told “no” over and over again, failure, petty frustrations, the endless grind, more failure, the mind-numbing, graceless task of becoming great, even more failure, pain, all forming a river of blood, sweat, and tears, and then having to swim across it.

From a post I wrote some time ago

Eight years. That’s how long it took for me to earn my first money from my writing.

How much?

$1.05. Before taxes.

My first month blogging? I barely got 500 visitors in total.

Blogging is not easy, and I am not in the business of telling you that it is or making you believe that all you need are some tools. You can have all the tools you need, but if you do not know how to use them, or if you do not want to use them, or don’t feel like it, or you’re too tired, too stressed, too angry, too lonely to use them, it’s as if you never even had them in the first place.

Most bloggers quit when they realize how difficult it is.

When you feel like giving up, think of the fact that that’s when most folks quit. Do you want to be like them or do you want to succeed?

Do you want your words to mean something to someone? Act like it. Punch the damn keys. Stop complaining that it is hard and do the work.

One word after another. One day after another.


Focus on the struggle. Focus on doing your best today.

That’s it.

Don’t give up, don’t give in, don’t whine because it hurts. Just punch the keys, do your best, then go to sleep.

Tomorrow is another day. And you will take care of it when the sun will rise.

Do a bit of blogging every single day. Write, edit, read other blogs, take part in interesting conversations on other people’s blogs, use social media, listen to podcasts, watch documentaries, movies, TV shows. Feed your brain with as much information as possible.

It doesn’t sound like magic, I know.

And I know this whole word by word, day by day, brick by brick principle sounds boring, stupid, basic, but it’s the truth.

After all, brick by brick is how they built the Great Wall of China, and you can see that damn thing from freaking space.


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Cristian Mihai

Became Internet famous by the age of 23. Never recovered. I write short author bios all over the web. I’m an acquired taste. Don’t like me? Acquire some taste.

275 thoughts on “If You Feel Like Giving Up, This Is Your Wake-Up Call10 min read

    1. I am glad that you enjoyed reading this post. I am glad that maybe it gave you a bit of a push in the right direction. Keep punching those damn keys and never, ever, ever give up.

  1. I am so glad I read this when I did. Giving up is the one thing you may never forgive yourself for. When you have a passion and a drive that you can’t shake, and when you don’t exercise that drive or develop it, you are selling yourself and the world short. I love how Mother Teresa put it:
    “…What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight;
    Create anyway.
    Give the best you have, and it may never be enough;
    Give your best anyway.
    In the final analysis, it is between you and God;
    It was never between you and them anyway.”

  2. Reblogged this on and commented:
    This is a beautifully written piece that deserves more than just a repost, more so a standing ovation!

  3. Thank you for such a motivating content. I didn’t even receive a like from any of my blog post even they’ve already reached 44 blog articles now. But still, I continue what I love doing: writing and blogging.

    My website is only one year old now but I’m already earning from it and was already awarded Best Events Blog of 2019.

    Don’t just ever give up. Success is not done overnight, not even in a year or so. Just continue reaching your dreams until you see them coming true.

  4. Brilliant Stuff!!! Blogging is so much about the mindset we carry, you have subtly touched the heart of the matter. It is not about the topic we choose and the content we dwell, the marketing that we do and the interaction we have with this wonderful platform. These are pure mechanics but there is that spirit that makes the soul of blogging to flourish and we need to be cognizant of it. These are fragmented residues of the relationship we nurture with blogging. And that the connection has its root in the mind and the way we set ourselves to grow with this virtual body of thought. No amount of teaching and training can help unless we spend time and that too good amount of time in building that elusive mindset and then nurturing that special relationship.

    Yes, given the quantum effort needed to sustain and the constant churning that get demanded to keep creating, creativity is at the core of the content…never easy to keep going and most of us after making that initial enthused effort tend to give up and many have given up, who otherwise, would have been the star performers and they had everything, and were even better than many of their contemporary successful bloggers. Just that they couldn’t convince their mind to keep going and console their heart they are are doing a good job and to taste the recipe of success they have the right blend of ingredients and the right amount of heat – now they need to keep stirring and have the patience for the dish to get soaked with spices and cooked well. Indeed this is powerful, a food for thought for all bloggers who are at that phase of their journey where they are lost, and the key to unlocking the treasure trove of blogging is keep trying new things and keep going…

    There is no standard formula though there are certain factors that strongly contribute to the story of success but the same factors for some others simply don’t work. There are layers within layers, there are substrate to the stories of success, there are different set of combination to framing that complex equation, and there are different approaches to solve it…we learn our way and we learn as we go long the journey, and we all chart our own course, just that we need to keep going. And it is so much about the growth mindset that we need to incubate and nurture.

  5. I started writing with a zeal that I’ll never give up , but keep growing…
    5 months now and I have 59 followers (I merited them) and a lot of people encouraging me

    All it takes is the mindset, and not even the devil can stop you

    Thanks so much for this piece♥️. Write articles like this more often …

  6. I have had my own personal crests and troughs. Yet now I think I need to go the “Brick by Brick” way. And that suits me personally as well, as I have done on a few sites that I have been active on.

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