[Blogging Mindset] Is Your Blog Who You Are?3 min read

New bloggers live in a constant state of doubt. Though passionate, they are always terrified someone will read their blog posts and tell them that their work isn’t good enough.

We all want to be read. That’s why we write. Yet we also dread the fact that someone, somewhere, might hate us for our words.

And some of us are so afraid of this, so afraid that the wrong words written by some stranger half a world away late night might make them delete their blogs, that they don’t even have the guts to write like themselves.

Sadly, most bloggers write like someone else; someone who’s popular. Some bloggers use big words in the attempt to sound more capable, or describe concepts and ideas they don’t believe in just because they sound cool. They overwrite, they force the reader to go through endless paragraphs of pretty words that mean nothing at all.

Most bloggers write in a way that is supposed to minimize the chance of getting criticized:

  • They choose to blog about trending topics
  • They choose to use the same headlines as everyone else in their niche
  • They choose to write like the popular bloggers
  • They write about what they don’t believe in because they think everyone else does believe in it

But, you see, the truly great bloggers, they write in such a way that it feels like they are talking to you. They are being unapologetically themselves, no matter how weird or terrible that self may seem to one or another.

There’s nothing forced or false about their words; all that they write was nurtured inside their beautiful minds and came to life with the very first words that they felt like using.

That’s the big, big difference between a perpetually (frustrated) aspiring blogger and a highly effective one, the difference between just another blogger and the blogger.

The true blogger, the blogstar, the one whose words can even nudge the world a bit, has found his voice by letting go of the fear that someone else might not like who they are.

They are who they are, because they couldn’t, wouldn’t, and shouldn’t be someone else. They are who they are, because someone has to be. They write like themselves, always staying true to how they think and what they believe in.

Their writing is clear and concise. Their paragraphs flow in such a way that they could effortlessly read a blog post aloud, as if they were talking to a friend over a cup of coffee.

Great blogging is a conversation.

Read you work aloud. Does this sound like the way you would really talk or is it forced in a voice that isn’t the real you? Are you genuinely passionate about the things you blog about? If your latest blog post would be your last, would that be what you truly wanted to write about?

Your blogging is you and should be a reflection of how you think and talk, not a pathetic attempt of making other people like your, admire you, or give you money.

Because in life, in love, in blogging, you will be constantly asked if you know who you are. And if you don’t, you’ll be told who you should be. And you will not like it, so you should blog in such a way that you tell the world,  “I am an acquired taste. Don’t like me? Acquire some taste.”

Cristian Mihai

Became Internet famous by the age of 23. Never recovered. I write short author bios all over the web. I’m an acquired taste. Don’t like me? Acquire some taste.

27 thoughts on “[Blogging Mindset] Is Your Blog Who You Are?3 min read

  1. I feel like I’m beginning to find my voice. For the first time ever, if someone doesn’t like it, I’m fine with that. Thanks for all of your great advice.

  2. Great post, I think your words will inspire self discovery amongst our blogging community. Thank you for sharing this post it definitely was very timely for myself getting back into blogging again after some time.

  3. Love this. Makes me question myself 😆. But I love this time, blogging, that is. Several other attempts in my past. Many of the things you point out were me🤫 I spend alot of time considering what I want to write about… I have learned to write more like my talking. That sounds weird. I started a podcast and was reading something I wrote and wow 😳. All of this to say thank you for the post and that you are right in most of it regarding the lessons.

  4. Love this advice. This for me is the key issue. How to be me? How much to reveal? Where are the boundaries? These questions stop me before I start!

    This is the challenge. I have plenty of things to write about. But is it authentic? Like an artist learning to paint what he actually sees rather than what he assumes is there from conditioning of the mind and perceptions. My views can also change sometimes rapidly in which case I may write something which I later regret or disagree with!

    Where to start?

    Thanks for this great article…

  5. I always find your words inspiring. Just when I’m starting to wonder if I’m being narcissistic in my desire to write and share publicly or feeling discouraged by the slow growth you post something that pushes me on. I am a meek person but nature and thus feel my writing reflects that quiet voice but I hope the passion I feel on certain things comes through all the same. I. Write not for fame but in the hopes of letting some soul know that they are not alone or to inspire humanity to rise above the ugliness that surrounds us. Thank you for sharing you blogging wisdom with the world.

  6. This is inspiring!! I’m a new and young blogger currently trying to find my niche! I currently don’t have many viewers to critique me but you’re definitely right, I often restrict myself by always aiming to say the right thing… thank you for this food for thought

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