[Blogging Mindset] A Thick Skin is Necessary1 min read

It does not matter how fantastic your blog is, how much you pour your heart and soul into it, how genuine you are, because some people will still want to see you knocked down a peg or two.

In fact, the more successful you are, the more some people will want to see you fail.

You’ll probably receive some nasty comments from time to time from folks who want to make you look foolish and/or criticize you. That’s just life as a popular blogger.

Understand that your readers do not know you. Some will think they do and may even start to perceive you as a friend. This is cool as long as they don’t start hanging around outside your house, but ultimately, they do not truly know who you are. Therefore, any criticism that is aimed at you reveals nothing about you. It says plenty about the person that administers it, but that’s about as far as it goes.

To paraphrase Wayne Dyer, how people act towards you is their karma, how you react, that’s your karma.

You should deal with criticism the same way as you should deal with compliments, don’t take them too seriously.

If you take the compliments too seriously, you’ll not be able to deal with the hate comments when they arrive.

Whatever somebody says, simply thank them for their feedback. Then decide whether that feedback is useful and can help you move forward. If it can, great, use it. If it can’t, drop it because you don’t need it.

Cristian Mihai

Became Internet famous by the age of 23. Never recovered. I write short author bios all over the web. I’m an acquired taste. Don’t like me? Acquire some taste.

14 thoughts on “[Blogging Mindset] A Thick Skin is Necessary1 min read

  1. So true! Blogging is a hobby of mine but, quite frankly, no matter what someone says, I am still living my life. Or sometimes people don’t respond or say what you want them to say and you have to learn to let that go as well. Thanks for sharing this. 🙂

  2. Great advice.. Recently started blogging… there is vulnerability involved for the blogger as well, depending on if sharing something personal, baring your soul etc. Tough skin def needed…

  3. I ty to shut the rude person or troll down in the most friendliest way possible. So far, I’ve had a pretty positive experience with WP. I feel like everyone is entitled to an opinion, and I agree that it’s up to us how how we choose to handle negative feedback.

  4. Great advice. It’s really important to detach yourself from comments and, as you say, remember that these people don’t know you. Also, people have different drives and motives when they comment on your blog. It’s best to seek to remain objective and learn what you can – and disregard the unnecessary/ inappropriate.

  5. Comments often reveal more about the speaker/writer than their subject. As you’ve said so well here, it’s best to listen/read, consider the substance (not too much from who it came), and learn something. All can improve, and sometimes even people we don’t like have something valuable to teach us.

  6. This is true, especially with anything online. You make a good point about how if you are going to detach yourself from the negativity then there has to be a certain detachment from the positive as well. Kind of like entertainers who keep a healthy balance of what they are doing versus ones that start believing their own press, which leads to putting too much into the good and bad that people say about their public personas.

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