Write Like Yourself4 min read

Let’s face it: most people can’t write their way out of a paper bag. Further, most bloggers are boring, most journalists are so heavily edited that any personality they’ve added to a story has long since been weaned out by the editorial process.

I want to let you in on a secret, though: it’s not really that people are boring, but that too many have been taught that you shouldn’t write the same way you talk. I blame our educational system, actually, with those 5th grade teachers who drilled us on adverbs, pronouns and the minutia of grammar, coupled with too many boring, tedious academic books that we all suffered through while in college.

Instead, I suggest to you that the best way to write clear, coherent, engaging and enjoyable content is to write the way you speak, to recognize your spoken voice and pour it out onto the virtual page of your computer screen and weblog.

How The Heck Do I Learn How To Be Less Formal?

The first step is to give yourself permission to be imperfect. I assure you that it’s okay to add what I call ‘verbal fillers’ like “um”, and “ah” and “hmmm”, but even without that, relaxing and writing with a more informal, less structured style will prove a great benefit to both you and your readers.

Let me give you a quick demonstration of verbal fillers, shall I?

So let’s say that you want to learn how to write like you speak? Well, y’know, if you really listen to dialog, you’ll quickly realize that people, um, you’ll notice that there are all sorts of mistakes… um, imperfections… errors people make when they’re, um, what were we talking about? Oh yeah, how people really talk, versus what we get in print and the insipid, stilted artificial dialog in movies and on TV, um, television.

That’s a bit much on the verbal imperfections scale, I admit, but I hope you can see the point I’m getting at? (and, yes, it’s okay to end sentences with a preposition!) If you want your readers to enjoy your prose, to find what you’re writing compelling and engaging, then I strongly encourage you to experiment with adding imperfections to your next blog entry.

Being completely informal won’t work for all types of writing, but the general idea that I’m trying to get to here (or “attain”, if you prefer) is that good writers have “a voice”, a distinctive style that both helps them communicate quickly and accurately and helps you understand their thoughts and ideas. There’s no reason in the world why you shouldn’t also have a distinctive voice.

Ya Got Any Tricks For Me To Learn This?

The trick I’ve used to learn how to cultivate and write with a distinctive voice is to read what I write out loud rather than just sub-vocalize it as I write. Not only is this a great way to learn which sentences are too long or need commas or other breaks so you can breath (a skill that can’t be overrated!) but it also helps you “hear” which of your sentences are awkward and stilted rather than flowing and relaxed.

Let me wrap this up with an exercise for you: next time you write a blog entry, get to the last word then take ten or fifteen minutes to do something completely unrelated, leaving it unpublished. After you’ve had a chance to switch gears, go back to your editing screen, scroll to the top, and read what you’ve written out loud to your cat, the far wall, your cube-mate, whomever. Does it really sound like you talking?

Change, tweak, edit, add imperfections, alter your prose until it sounds at least somewhat similar to your speech patterns and read it out loud again. Iterate on that two or three times then, finally, when you’re ready, push that “publish” button.

Practice this discipline for a few weeks and before you know it you’ll find that you’re finding your writer’s voice, your blog has become more accessible and enjoyable reading, and your readers are becoming loyal fans.


Having encouraged you to be more informal with your writing, I do not suggest that you toss out the proverbial baby with the bathwater here. Basic grammatical structure, matching verb tense, spelling and punctuation are all important and do help you communicate effectively. I’m simply encouraging that you play with your prose to create something that’s more reflective of who you are and how you really communicate. Capiche?


  1. Reblogged this on Delusiolity and commented:
    This is a great post that I completely agree with and think everyone should read! I’ve never been one for writing anything in a way other than how I speak…it just doesn’t sound like me if I don’t!

  2. A great post. My wife tells me continually to simply be who I am when I write. She refers to it as “write without thinking.” Simply be as you are. When I follow her advice(which apparently I need to do more often), the blog posts are so much better.

  3. I completely agree! It’s so important to write like you talk. It sounds so much more authentic than formal writing. Blogging is the perfect platform for human-sounding writing ✍️

  4. Yes sir I write like I talk but also pull from real life experiences and create my own world. Creative expression is one of the best natural exhilarating exhausting fun trips. Love this post

  5. I think that our writing ability is linked directly to our reading ability. I always ask: why can I understand this writer more clearly than that one.” Then I try to emulate the style, eventually sprinkling my own style on it.

  6. Great post. Always stay true to your voice

  7. This helps. Thank you!

  8. Best piece of advice I’ve heard about writing!! I consistently had this issue with my editor (who I eventually fired). She kept turning my writing into a boring business document. She simply couldn’t understand that my personal style (what made me unique) was writing how I speak. This, in my opinion, is what set’s writers apart. So good to hear someone else feels the same🙏🙏

  9. Great advice! Thanks!

  10. Capiche but your post here is formal, well written and straightforward, without difficult words and a complicated syntax. So yes people should have their own style in writing and must make the effort to be simple and witted but not to the point to write like they talk. Writing and talking are not quite the same. Thank you for your post, I enjoy reading you!

  11. I started writing in a very formal, academic style. After 18 months or so, I started using contractions. Incomplete sentences for emphasis. Etc. It is very difficult for an academic like myself to write informally. But I agree with you that a personal blog requires it. I’m not writing a master’s thesis or doctoral dissertation. You can teach an old dog new tricks.
    I appreciate the affirmations from your blog and the helpful hints toward excellence.

  12. Thank you for the reminder.
    When I read through blog posts of the past, I can clearly identify the ones where I wrote with my voice, and the ones that came from my brain.
    And yes, my voice is generally quite formal – but the occasional giggle in between is what is lacking ‘in my head’ posts 😉

  13. Awesome! Awesome! Bending the rules is not breaking them.

  14. Thanks for the post. I read my posts out loud and generally write in the way I speak. I agree that over editing sucks the personality out of writing 😊.

  15. CAPICHE. Thanks for the reminder 🙂

  16. This is great advice. I never fee like my writing sounds like me, but I want it too! I’m going to put this in to practice for now on when I write.

  17. This is a total game changer for me and feels like straight up divine intervention. The content I’m creating is so important to me and sometimes I feel stuck in my college days – communicating via MLA formatting with strict academic rules on how to share information. But, it doesn’t feel like me and I get stuck with it. Poetry flows more easily but as of now I’m trying to navigate this balance of sharing information, stories, and opinions through the unique way that I think and speak without losing myself in self imposed rules of formality.

    Thank you for the wonderful advice.

  18. I Love this!! I totally agree I love to write the way I speak I feel like it gives my writing more flavour many even a lil spice 🙂 I actually have more trouble writing or being formal feels unauthentic!

  19. I do agree that we should write like ourselves.

    But, I want to make sure that my readers understand what I write to them 100%.

    Whether they like my words or not, at least they do learn more than enough information.

  20. This is wickedly AWESOME because I write in the same manner as I speak/talk. Mainly on Facebook since that’s my sole outlet for my frustrations and every day angst against the world, but totally beside the point! Thank you!!

  21. Seems so simple now you say it…..great advice mate!

  22. Thank you for this

  23. This is so important! Thank you for writing this post. So many people have adopted the same writing style that it’s difficult to say whether the author of one piece of writing is different to the author of another – their voices all sound the same. The most authentic blogs out there are definitely the ones where the writer has tried their best to be honest with themselves.

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