How to Make Friends with Other Bloggers3 min read

I know you’re asking yourself why on earth would you even want to make friends with other bloggers.

Here’s the thing. Imagine you wrote the best blog in the history of the world wide web. Something you’re so proud of that you feel everyone on this planet should read it. Those who can’t read should have this post read to them.

But… how? How do you properly promote your blog?

This is a tricky question indeed, because most of what people choose to do (fueled by either passion or desperation) never yields the results they were hoping for.

So… how do you get everyone to read your blog post?

Read on to find out.

Content is King

Produce a truly great blog post, and it will be commented on, and shared, and it will make you Internet famous.

Sadly, this is not how it works. Great content is not enough. Just yesterday I stumbled upon this brilliant piece of writing that made me cry, a blog post written all the way back in December 2017, on a blog with only 24 followers, and I had to be the one to give that article its first like, more than two years after being published on the web.

So great is not enough. There’s so much remarkable content easily available, that if you want to be read, you need to be connected.

It’s Not What You Know, It’s Who You Know

An average blogger that’s friends with every popular blogger in his niche will become a popular blogger faster than even the most brilliant writer with no friends at all.

I believe people somehow mistake the Internet for some sort of oasis for socially awkward individuals who faint if they have to shake hands with someone they’re not intimately related to.

No.

The Internet still obeys to thousands of years of social rules and norms, and this means that bloggers visit and comment more often on their friends’ blogs than anywhere else.

The secret to building a popular blog isn’t just writing tons of brilliant content. It’s also having tons of friends.

How to Make Friends with Other Bloggers

So… how are you supposed to make friends with all of these bloggers?

Here are some ideas to get you started:

  • Read their blogs.
  • Comment on their blogs.
  • Make it a personal goal of yours to be not the first to comment, but the one who delivers the best comment.
  • Never use those comments to shamelessly promote your stuff
  • Write a guest post and tell them about it. They’ll probably accept to share it on their blog
  • Email them an irresistible question, hoping to spark a discussion
  • Interview them on your blog

We’re not talking about anything new here. It all comes down to one of the oldest principles of persuasion: reciprocity.

Contrary to what many people think, no man is an island.

The key is to do your best to become socially relevant to others and to start building a relationship with them.

Give it a few months, and then start sharing with them your best and most relevant content — stuff you know they’ll love because by this point you’re, you know, friends, and you are well aware of what content they enjoy reading.

It’s hard work, but it’s worth it. If you put as much effort into making friends with your fellow bloggers as you do writing great content, you’ll have a popular blog in no time.

Cristian Mihai

Became Internet famous by the age of 23. Never recovered. I write short author bios all over the web. I’m an acquired taste. Don’t like me? Acquire some taste.

64 thoughts on “How to Make Friends with Other Bloggers3 min read

  1. This advice also applies to other areas of life too.
    It’s not necessarily what you know, but who you know, that determines your level of success in life.

  2. Great advice. I’ve been so pleased with my interactions with my blogging peers. They have taught me so much! I knew I could write, but there is so much more to it. Don’t even get me started on Pinterest….LOL…I had no idea!

    1. The blogosphere is full of wisdom, indeed! A fellow WordPress blogger recently posted about a chocolate overload dessert. This person is now my dessert god. Ever since, I’ve been thinking about different ways multiple chocolate things could be put together~

  3. Good advice. I’m trying to build community with my writing and this applies to everything I’m trying to do. As with everything, it takes time and diligence! Thanks again for the advice.

  4. I always struggle with this, because I don’t necessarily want to be a “blogger”. I just want to get my stuff out there, but I’m never sure if I’m doing it correctly or what makes people like certain posts over others. I’m sure it’s just better to have friends on here. I think my brain is making excuses so it doesn’t have to interact with real people LOL

    1. Yes. You’re rationalizing yourself out of doing something you’re either afraid of or don’t quite feel like doing.

      As for why people prefer some blog posts over others, I have blogged about it a lot. It’s magic. Just a few ingredients that most folks never bother to learn about and/or use.

  5. This is the first year in my life that I am really taking blogging seriously. I mean like serious serious. I am excited about getting blogger friends and feel like the blogging community is mostly positive and helpful. My problem is my doubts about actually make a living one day. With so many blogs out there is there still room for me to make money? Now I want to include that I love to write and I would do it whether I make money or not. Blogging is my ideal job. Could I really make a living from blogging a few years from now?

    1. You could be making a living a few months from now. It all depends on how much time and effort you invest.

      And do not worry about the competition. Yes, there are millions and millions of bloggers out there, but most of them are not serious, consistent, dedicated to learning, or perseverant enough to even count.

    2. I bet a lot of people who read a blog probably read multiple. Like how a lot of us watch movies by more than one director. Thinking of it that way makes blogging sound less hardcore competitive to me. I think there’s room for plenty of us to do our thing 🙂 Good luck!

      1. Yes I agree! And then there are remakes of movies or places that sell the same thing (like chicken). I definitely think there’s room for everybody. Especially since all of our perspectives are unique. Two people could have the exact same opinion, but the way they write resonates with some people and may not resonate with others.

  6. I saved this post a few days ago, and now I’ve finally read it. Your timing is perfect. Great post and more info I can work on and apply to my blogging.

  7. Great post Cristian, as always, thought provoking and helpful. This is something I’ve struggled with so far. I’m solidly opposed to using Facebook these days, but it seems that’s where people are really making “friends” with other bloggers. I’m sure it’s hindering my progression but I just can’t support that platform anymore. Hopefully by instead working on the suggestions you’ve outlined, I’ll still find my “tribe”. Thanks!

  8. How would i “Interview” someone on my blog Cristian? hmmmm… do i prerecord the questions or something? thanks for letting newbies like me to follow you as a guiding light.

    Great post,
    As always!

    -V

  9. Also, I met my best friend on a blog about six years ago. We had lived within 20 miles of each other for years and had never met. We have inspired each other and met in person many times, although I didn’t live near her when we met on WordPress.com…

  10. What timing, but then that’s what life is about, eh? I’ve been looking at the networking angle of blogging lately as I used to do that face to face back in the day. And yes, I deliberately use the word “networking” because sadly it’s gotten a bad rap but really all it is, is a form of friendship making. Good info here, being social has a whole new digital definition now, but let’s not forget it still all boils down to human interaction…it never hurts to be friendly!

  11. I was very fortunate to meet V who runs a blog called millenniallifecrisis.org. She is the first blogger who I’ve met in person. Meeting people doesn’t have to be scary, and it can be quite rewarding having the privilege to connect with other bloggers who share the same interests as you. 🙂

  12. Just read pretty close the same advice about Instagram yesterday… And I believe both of you are so right!!! Now I have to apply this great advice 😀

  13. Hmm, you mean treat People like People? As if they have thoughts and feelings that are just as valid and interesting as your own?

    Great reminder to A. quit your self-centered mindset and B. you might actually enjoy your world a bit more in the process!

  14. Thank-you for the great article. I’ve learned recently that most of the traffic I get is from other bloggers. It truly is about reciprocity. It’s more fun this way too! What could be better than friends, writing and learning??? Love it!

  15. I don’t want to sound like Miss Sunshine, because I’m really not that kind of person, but I love making friends with other bloggers. When I first started blogging 2 years ago, I wasn’t thinking about making friends, but it’s become one of the greatest things about blogging for me. Not only do you get to network, writing and reading blogs becomes more meaningful when you start to care about other bloggers.

  16. Thank you for this post! With just starting out, I have to remember it’s not enough to just throw a blog out there and hope for the best. I also have to interact and make friends. It feels safe to stay in my corner but it’s important to get out and comment.

  17. I actually started writing on this platform because I would get these epiphanies that I realized are actually valuable. And they don’t just stay in your head if you don’t curate them. So I did, even for myself to come back and read them at times. But now that I have written like four, I’m beginning to want to take this thing seriously and in that respect, your blog has helped a lot. This was a very insightful and convincing post.

    People who know me read the post and text me to tell me it’s helpful. But it’s only engaging with other bloggers that you get to have that conversation on this platform. Thanks and kudos to you!

  18. So much great information on all your posts! There’s so much more to blogging than I ever imagined when I first began a year ago. I can’t imagine having 500 followers let alone 50,000 but here’s hoping 😃

      1. I hope so 😊 it’s tough to get time for it at the moment but I’m determined not to give up. I’ve only got around 130 followers so far but growing every week. 😁

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