9 Mistakes That Will Screw Up Your Blog9 min read

After months or even years of thinking about it, you finally decided to start your own blog. You sat down at your desk, maybe planned for a few hours, gathered your thoughts, and punched the damn keys.

Feeling a bit nervous, a bit excited (you weren’t sure what you were feeling) you eagerly waited for stuff to happen. After all, it’s all about writing and clicking on that blueish little Publish button, is it not?

Well… the feedback you receive is the kind that makes 95% of bloggers quit. Soul-crushing silence. That’s enough to break even the toughest warriors.

What happened? Where did you go wrong? Where are all the readers?

Mistakes. That’s what happened. I know, because I’ve been there. I made my fair share of mistakes. Some of them I even fixed. Now I am working on making new ones.

But let’s just focus on the ones that can, should, and must be fixed.

In this day and age, anyone can start a blog. But without readers, it’s not a blog. 

I know, I know. Some of you are itching to hit that comment box with something like, “I write for myself, I do not care if I get readers or not.

If you were only writing for yourself you’d be doing it in a journal. You write in a public blog, on the Internet, because you want to be read. Admit it. It’s going to work out so much better for you in the long run.

You might even consider this as the first mistake: not admitting that you want readers.

Yes, getting readers is complicated. And yes, it’s hard. And yes, most of you will get frustrated and quit. Some of you will persevere, while others will want to figure out what’s wrong and how they can improve.

1. You’re all me, me, me

Talking about what happened to you. What you did yesterday. Or the day before that. Telling cute stories as if this were some sort of high school reunion.

You could do that. It doesn’t mean anyone will read it though.

Even though people do love stories, even though the human element is what connects almost anything to everything else, it’s not that simple.

It’s difficult to pull it off.


Because we vastly overestimate how interested people are when it comes to our lives. Hint: they’re not. In the real world, or in this virtual world, most mimic interest out of politeness.

Yes, you have a story. I get it. But we all do.

But think of it this way: if husbands rarely listen to their wives complaining about a crap day at work (I’m so going to get in trouble for this) then what makes you think some strangers living thousands of miles away would?

Storytelling is one of the most fascinating things you can do. It connects people on such a level that they almost become one. They mirror each other, even their hearts begin to sync. But it’s one hell of a skill, and it takes years and years to master.

How can you get away with it?

What we love more than anything are stories that teach us something. Not only that, but we love the underdog winning. That’s the only story worth mentioning.

How did you overcome the most difficult moments in your life? What did you learn from them? How did those experiences shape you?

A rags to riches story is interesting because most people can identify with the rag, and can dream about the riches. The rich part is what makes it so interesting, in fact. It’s the fact that it makes people think that they, too, can do it.

But telling people what you had for lunch yesterday or that you hurt your toe by stepping on some legos…

2. You obsess about everything (but the content)

You focus your time and energy on SEO. Keywords, backlinks, and all that jazz. You buy all sorts of tools, read all the resources you can find…

I believe SEO to be mostly a waste of time. Google’s ranking algorithms are not difficult to predict, but impossible. And they change. And any so-called SEO expert if he were being honest would tell you the same thing.

Next, you obsess about the way your blog looks. The design of your blog is important enough for you to spend money on a custom theme. You take the utmost care of what goes where. You just want it to look stunning, make people fall in love.

Does it matter?

Not at all. Most of the time, as long as they can somehow find their way around you blog, your readers don’t give a damn about your custom designed theme.

3. You do not network

I wrote about it here and here.

Building connections with fellow human beings is essential to the success of your blog. It’s probably the second most important thing you can do, behind providing great content.

What I mean by this?

Reply to comments. That’s a great way to start. Focus on creating true connections with those who read your blog. Find other bloggers. Read their stuff. Comment on their stuff. Ask them if they’d like to be interviewed by you, if they’d like you to guest blog for them…

It’s not magic, and it takes a lot of time and patience, but it does help your blog. A lot.

4. You are hoping to “go viral”

This is a big misconception, one I have been guilty of in the past. Even though you are not seeing any results, then you must persevere and keep going and one day it will happen that this one post you wrote will go viral and turn you into an Internet sensation.

Look, I’m all about perseverance. And even I am guilty of being too perseverant, and forgetting about the other aspect: changing one’s strategy.

It’s mostly about the incremental. You need to grow. Otherwise, it’s all just wishful thinking, and it won’t help you reach the audience you deserve.

5. You are obsessed with stats

It’s not all about stats. Traffic. Numbers. This isn’t Accounting 101.

Stop checking those damn stats every minute of every day. It’s a complete waste of time.

6. You are not consistent

Yes, consistency is key to building a great blog. People need to know what to expect, when to expect it.

No one cares when you write an apology for not posting for six months. As a matter of fact, few will even remember who you are.

7. You already quit in your mind

This one of the most common mistakes. That’s why people tell themselves they’re only blogging as a means to save their souls from damnation. Or that they’re not popular because they’re not lucky. They have such a particular niche that there are only six other people in the world who can understand them. And five of them don’t have Internet access.

Okay, I get it. When you have 200 followers and you get 20 view every time you post something, it’s easy to get discouraged. To lose hope. But writing whatever comes to mind and not giving a damn is not going to help you increase your audience. It’s not.

Granted, popular blogs tend to become popular fast. I grew mine from 0 to 20,000 followers in little over seven months. But… there’s a but, yes… you must not take into consideration your current situation, but rather the possibility for growth.

What I mean by that is that you need to keep your feet on the ground and your eyes on the stars. Work hard on becoming a better blogger, and don’t get sidetracked by the lack of results.

Results always, always follow personal development. Or, in this case, blogging development.

You can always become better.

Thank you for reading today’s pep talk! Now on to the next mistake.

8. You post too often

Guilty as charged. But, I have a pretty good excuse. I have been doing this for so long that people have come to understand this (somehow). What I mean by this is that I have a lot of repeat readers. People who actually read every single post, which makes it okay to post this often.

As a beginner though, it’s not sustainable, and unless you provide great content, absolutely fantastic content, odds are you’re going to piss people off a lot more often than making them appreciate your time and effort.

9. You do not spend enough time writing the best content possible

Your primary focus should be content. The better it is, the faster you’ll grow your blog. It shouldn’t, however, be your only focus.

This is what makes blogging so tricky. Because it’s quite a paradox. Yes, you need to provide value, to over-deliver, to give people what they want. But it’s also important to promote, to network, to learn, to expand…

And you have to make people care. That’s what makes the difference between boring and interesting. It’s not the information, but how it’s presented.

So, ask yourself… do people care about your blog? What have you done to make them care?

So, what should you do?

The answer is kind of simple. You figure out what people want to read. What they’d love to read from YOU. That’s the idea.

I always think of blogging as a man trying to seduce a woman, so to speak. And he’s talking and talking, and bragging, and you know, explaining stuff, and how much he can bench press and how much money he makes, and she’s constantly looking away, looking down, doing all sort of things to keep her distracted.

Why is that? Why do you think something like that happens?

Because he wasn’t paying attention to her. He wasn’t talking about what she wanted to be talking about.

Blogs usually fail not because their content is bad or they didn’t add enough backlinks or because it’s all a scam and it’s all about luck and no one cares or understands what they’re all about.

That guy would be having the time of his life talking about how much he can bench press and how much money he makes if only he talked about it with the right people. The kind of people who care about those sort of things.

Women love to talk about art, romance, social dynamics, they want to hear interesting stories, made to laugh.

Getting sidetracked there a bit.

Anyway. Blogs fail because their authors never stop to think what it is that their readers truly want to read about. Because the truth is that if you write about the stuff that matters to a lot of people, then your blog will grow. It doesn’t matter if you’re doing it “wrong” by most experts’ standards.

Listen to your readers. Ask them what is it that they’d like to read more about.

And if you don’t have any readers yet, don’t wait for them to come to you. Go after them. Network. But do it with a bit of grace and diplomacy.

I’d like to know what are some of the mistakes you’ve made and how you fixed them.

Also, I do want to know about some of the issues you’re having, and maybe I can help you fix them.

Lastly, if there’s any topic you’d like me to write about, do share that with me in the comments section below.

Cristian Mihai

Became Internet famous by the age of 23. Never recovered. I write short author bios all over the web. I’m an acquired taste. Don’t like me? Acquire some taste.

230 thoughts on “9 Mistakes That Will Screw Up Your Blog9 min read

  1. I totally agree about consistency. I haven’t mastered it til now. I started out blogging 10 years ago and kept changing the domain of my blog. I used to talk about Bitcoin and stuff and I am a cheapskate for buying domain and hosting so for 4 consecutive years out of 10 years I’ve changed domain names. December 2017 was the final change. I did that for the sake of lower fees on domain providers. And back then my blog we’re getting tons of traffic but it resets whenever I rebrand. So I think for new comers think about a forever name. I realized that it has a bad impact with seo. 😑

  2. Wow… Reading this was very helpful. Lately its like nothing i write is good enough and im stuck in my head trying to put my thoughts into words…but wow.. Ive read three of your posts today, randomly and its like you are talking to me… Content creation is probably the toughest bit about blogging, for me.

  3. When I was reading this, I felt like I was looking in awe at a piece of gold that I discovered. As someone who is merely at the beginning of this journey, this is hopefully going to help me jump the initial steps instead of trying to climb them and fall back. And whenever a blogger thinks that something is not going right, he/she should always refer back to this post. Thanks a lot for this beautiful sharing.

  4. Wow this is very helpful. Consistency and not being obsessed with stats are true. I feel like this post is addressed towards me. Being new, these common mistakes can be prevented. Thank you.

  5. Thank you for this post, it was very interesting and informative. As I was reading I thought, guilty of at least two of these items. But at least one item I got correct 🙂

  6. Your blogs are very well written and deeply thought-provoking.

    All of my life I have been drawn to the creative arts, including drawing, painting, and photography. I love making music as a part of an ensemble, like in a choir or a band. I’ve been a self-employed businessman. a newspaper publisher, a computer salesman, advertising specialist in print media. Most recently I’ve been a real estate developer, building a high rise commercial building.

    What all of that has taught me is that in order to be successful, at any of these things, you need a few things: (1) to care about whatever you’re doing enough to invest yourself in it (2) Do stuff that other people want to see, hear, buy or live and work in because it fulfills something important in them (3) Self-confidence – if you don’t believe in it yourself, you’ll never get anyone else to either.

    My final point is – I love your style and content, and intend to keep on reading and learning from you everything you want to put out there.

    1. Thank you, Donald!

      I think that there are a few “elements” of success that can be applied to any endeavor. To be passionate, to want to become better, and to have the guts to go after what you want.

  7. This is such a great post and so much clearer than all the other ones I’ve read about starting blogs. I think I’m avoiding most of the stuff on the list, but I should probably put some more effort into my content.
    Thank you for putting such helpful posts out there!

    1. Thank you so much for your comment, Abigail.

      Do not avoid doing what needs to be done. Face it, always face it. That’s how you get to where you want to be.

  8. Guilty as charge. Before I used to overshare. Then i kind of established a way to stop that. Now I am just worried about stats. However i know that my problem is consitency for my blog cause im also a guest blogger on another blog. And that makes me anxious each time i am posting on mine. I dont know how to break this barrier. Like Miely Echon also wrote I am also not confident about my domain, i feel like i should change it and have my name instead or something.. and this is because i read somewhere that having your name as a domain is more “brandeable” is this true or relative? Basically i am aoverwhelmed by these nitty gritty details.

    1. Elle,

      Let me attempt to give answer to your comment.


      That’s your home base, that’s your turd.

      It is okay to guest blog, but when you guest blog, some of people who read your guest blog post would also want to follow you back to YOUR OWN BLOG and see what you’ve got there.

      They want to know if you keep your base clean as you keep others clean. In other words, they want to know if you’ve got VALUABLE insights just as you share on other people’s blog.

      So, it is important that you give priority to your blog.

      2. DOMAIN NAME

      If you have started out with a domain that is not yourname.com, and you have traction, keep going. Eventually, the domain would get identified with your name as the one pushing that domain brand.

      We have couple of people whose domain name aren’t there names but they are well known with those domain name.

      And we also have people whose their names are their domain names but aren’t known.

      The MAGIC is in delivering value, letting your followers and readers have fun, and connecting well with them and other variables required.

      But if you have started out with your name as a domain name, all well and good.

      And also, there are people who operate their name as domain names and at the same time maintain other domain names. However, this is for people who can double ‘double stunt’. This is not a way to go for everybody.

      I hope this little bits of mine helps?


    1. I think readers can tell. Also, quality suffers when you write just for the sake of publishing something on a blog. It’s forced, void of passion/life.

  9. This really helped me as I am pretty new to the blogging world. I would like some advice on something though: I am doing a daily Hawaii post series about what I got up to each day but would that count as posting too much?

  10. #3 is a big one. Without networking, people are eventually going to unfollow. I find it rude when bloggers don’t respond to my comments or acknowledge my writings. It takes a couple minutes to respond and you’ll get a lot farther in the blogging world if you do just that, blog!

    1. Networking is essential.

      And, yes, I agree with you about replying to comments, even though there are quite a few bloggers who do quite well without replying at all. After a while, and after you´ve become successful, it´s kind of tiring to reply to every single comment.

  11. Great read. I’ve just started my blog and got new followers every day, for a few days. Then a few days went by with no views after publishing. I kind of freaked a little. I guess it’s the nature of the beast. Thanks for the insight.

    1. Traffic always fluctuates. Those are just numbers, and they offer a cold perspective. Rather than views, focus on engagement. Do people comment? How many of them? Are the comments positive, negative, so and so?

  12. I have a hard time with promotion… all the posting here and there and trying to gain followers. I love to write and I mostly write about the Bible and life experience to help others, encourage them and help them gain understanding of the Word. Tough topic, I know but what I’m called to do. But the promoting thing… getting it in front of more people, definitely a huge challenge for me.

    1. It might help if you don’t see it as a chore, but rather as an essential part of your journey. It’s part of what needs to be done, so why not enjoy it?

  13. I just started blogging few days ago the truth is I have a lot to write about in my head but then how to put it in writing is my problem.I am not discouraged I really want people to see me and know how great a writer I can be with my stories and encouraging words. Reading through your post has given more hope

  14. I loved reading this post.

    Having blogged for nearly five year and having just recently passed the 100th published post milestone (yes OK I am talking about myself). I concur with a lot of this post.

    Certainly I believe quality and storytelling is important, but also the networking (both online and even offline) is vital to spread the word of your blogging, this is something that I sometimes feel is not always considered by bloggers in my humble opinion.

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts, and I look forward to reading more.

  15. Glad I came across this post. Taking away some great advice that I hope to implement in my blog. You made me rethink my topic as a whole and the audience that I could be targeting. Thank you so much!

  16. This is so on time for me. My fault for not taking the time to just sit down and just READ. This info is so insightful and useful. Thank you and keep sharing wonderful wisdom in the world of blogging. 👍🏾

  17. Hi. First of all, I love your blog!
    Coming to my blogging journey, I started a few months ago. I am not entire satisfied with the results, I know I can do better. Plus a collaboration of mine, did not end well. I can’t put it behind me. It’s affecting my blogs in one way or the other. I just can’t seem to realise what my next course of actions should be?

    1. Thank you!

      First of all, do not spend too much time dwelling on the past. Secondly, learn. Everything you can about blogging, content marketing, content writing, copywriting, social media, etc. Once you learn, you can do. You can change your course of action.

  18. This is such a great read! I really need to work on consistency. I feel like I’ve worked so hard on how my blog looks and works that I’ve forgotten about the content. Thanks for the nudge!

  19. Some sensible tips for achieving success on my site. I started out blogging as a frustrated former journalist who likes to write and as a way to share my stories and photography about my tree-change two years ago with my city friends. A blog allows a lot more scope for story telling than a Facebook post. It was also useful as a reflective blog for my university studies.

    There has been some difficult family stuff to deal with over the past few months so my blog dropped off. Not sure if I am ready to share those stories yet. But write I must even if it is only for therapy! However, I am feeling inspired to write more and need to rethink what I want my blog to be. There comes a time when you have outgrown that type of content and ready to embrace something different.

    Thank you for your candid comments and reality check for all us bloggers or would-be bloggers out there.

  20. Wonderful article, simple and to the point. I am going to bookmark this and use it as a checklist.

    PS Just a heads up the links to the networking articles are probably broken, I would love to read them if they are still up.

  21. I am new to blogging and just discovered your site. Your advice is invaluable! I love your writing style–it’s both engaging and informative. I plan on visiting often to read more of your posts. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and insights. Much appreciated! 🙂

  22. This was beautifully put together definitely well said, probably my biggest mistake when I first started was the lack of tags, cats and featured image’s.

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