[Blogging Mindset] Authenticity Is The New Black3 min read

There’s this aspect of blogging that is not often talked about, even though it’s important and determines a blogger’s success.


Because it’s difficult to explain, almost impossible to change, and there’s no clear formula, step by step guide

What is this aspect?

Well… it’s your personality.

Who are you? Exactly?

What are the words you’d use to define yourself it a complete stranger were to ask you this question?

What about your true self? When does it come out? Does it ever? Who are the lucky few who get to see who you truly are?

The last four questions are fundamental to your success as a blogger.

We humans are strange. We are born and then we die. And in between we try to force one another to live in a world of many rules, most of which are absurd at best. Sometimes it feels as if the man who is willing to compromise, to tell pretty words that aren’t true, that is the man who is rewarded.

We are taught to fit in. Not to be too loud…

It’s better to say nothing than say something stupid. And you must never, ever admit that you don’t know.

Yet, and here’s the paradox: we love those who are unapologetically themselves. Who are loud, eccentric, passionate. Who love what they do, who love life, who say what’s on their mind, regardless of the consequences.

In other words, the world pays their price.

Blogging is no different.

The blogging world will ask you who you are, and if you don’t know, if you’re not sure, if your voice quivers for just one moment, then the blogging world will be more than glad to tell you.

And odds are you won’t like it.

Just be yourself.

This seems like the most useless advice ever, but it’s important.

Be brave enough to be yourself when writing your blog posts. Be honest. Be true to your core beliefs and values.

If someone disagrees, that’s not your concern.

The less you give in to social pressure, to the critics and haters, to your idea of trying to please everyone or at least not to insult them, the more successful you’ll become.

Yes, think of your reader, and think of what they’d like to read from you, but don’t sell your soul in the process, don’t try to play it safe…

A lot of bloggers don’t want to win. It’s just how it is. They just don’t want to lose. They are willing to lie to themselves in order to feel like they’re not losing.

Just be yourself. Be honest. With yourself and with your readers. Tell it how you see it. Don’t try to sugar coat it, don’t try to play it safe.

Write your heart out. Write with passion. That’s what people want to read. That’s what people love to read.


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  • Peter Martuneac

    A friend of mine talked to me last week about getting into blogging, and this is almost exactly what I told him. It’s easy to get lost in this saturated field if you don’t wield your only weapon: your own unique voice.

    • Cristian Mihai


      Most people start blogs because they want to say something, or because they want to make a quick ( or easy) buck, or because of some wildly unrealistic expectations of fame and glory.

      The truth is that you have to have something to say, and remarkable people are rare.

      You either become one or you will have a tough time on this platform.

  • JanBeek

    You’re so right! I love people who are unapologetically themselves. The “Tell it Like it Is” people are refreshing – usually. But, there are those who literally have no filter. Into brain, out the mouth. No sensibility for the receiver. That can be a real turn off!! But, writing with passion, writing my heart out, yes… that’s what my blogging is… with a goal to inspire, not to offend.

    • Cristian Mihai

      I think those people are not unapologetically themselves, but rather trying to be something they’re not. Overcompensating.

      Imagine everyone criticizing you for being too quiet. You do not know how to stop being so, thus you become too loud instead, just so you can stare yourself in the mirror at the end of the day and say that no one could have criticized you for being too quiet.

      Obnoxious people have never taken the time to become socially calibrated.

  • sullivanspin

    Blogging requires that you strategically be yourself.

      • sullivanspin

        Truth! You can be authentic and write quality content, but if it’s not done strategically no one will ever see it.

  • JanBeek

    I sometimes think “social calibration” is not possible for ALL people. And for others, it is possible, but just not something they care about. “I am what I am!” is their motto. Your thought about “overcompensating” is one that I see sometimes in very insecure people… trying to hide their true selves. It’s sad, isn’t it?

    • Cristian Mihai

      Well, society tells us to be a lot of things, most are unnatural roles we must play.

      And what is a true self? We are who we decide to be. One can be a coward all his life, and then one day save thousands with a single deed of bravery and self-sacrifice. Did he die a coward? A hero? Both? Neither?

      We are just the stories we tell ourselves about who we are. Change the story, change who you are.

  • allison

    Good advice. This has been on my mind recently, so it’s great to see this encouraging article!

  • Monica Timbal

    yeah ๐Ÿ’ช haters will be haters anyway.

  • PiperGirl

    Great title ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Accipiter G. Goshawk

    Do you feel that this advice is also valid for short stories? I mean, you get less of a chance to express an opinion when you are writing fiction…any advice?

    • Cristian Mihai

      This is even more valid for fiction. All art is but a self-portrait, a chance to express who you are or who you wish to be.

      The tricky part is that good writers are like a bunch of people trying real hard to act like one person. They explore contradicting beliefs/opinions, and sometimes they end up believing in both at the same time. That’s why it may feel as if the author has no real opinions. He has. All the characters are him. Just like in a dream.

      • Accipiter G. Goshawk

        I understand this completely. I think of it as a kind of shadow puppet theater of the mind. Thank you for your reply!

  • Nancy Klein

    Cristian, more excellent advice from you! I just wrote a blog post that was most authentic, about how I used to be a shoplifter. I thought it might put people off but then I thought it is important to be honest about who you are or in this case, who I was.

    • Cristian Mihai

      Hi Nancy,

      Thank you for your compliment.

      Authenticity is important. Also, what puts people off is being secretive of who you really are, or ashamed, or afraid.

      • Nancy Klein

        To thine own self be true!

  • Dynamo

    Thanks for the great advice, Cristian.
    This is an advice I’ve actually been trying to follow for some time now – be yourself.
    It can be so damn difficult sometimes, but it’s definitely doable.

    • Cristian Mihai

      It is. It’s a battle you must fight every single day of your life, and never stop fighting.

  • Dynamo

    Reblogged this on PlanetDynamo and commented:
    Be yourself.

    After all, that’s what the world really wants.

    Although there’s a million and one advice daily about who and what you should be, ultimately, it’s the real you that’ll make people happy. Or piss the right people off.

    This is another great advice from the prolific writer, Cristian Mihai.

  • jalenhamilton

    Great post you inspire the hell out of me I pray I can write as good actually better then you one day. Keep up the great work Cristian.

    • Cristian Mihai

      Thank you,Jalen. Good luck with your writing.

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