Forget about Numbers for a Moment

“It’s not the number of followers you have or “likes” you get, it’s the strength of your bond with your followers that indicates how much anyone cares about what you have to say.

In this game, the one with the most real relationships wins.”Gary Vaynerchuck, The Thank You Economy

Numbers are funny. We, as adults, are kind of obsessed with them. A “ten million dollar home” is easy to imagine, easier than actually investing the time to describe how the house looks like.

And the blogging world is also plagued by this obsession with numbers. It’s all about traffic, stats, and followers. Views, unique visitors, hits, clicks, likes, and comments.

Lots and lots of numbers offering you the cold perspective of your success (or lack of it.)

Here’s the kind of truth that few will ever share with you: it’s not just about numbers.

I once read an article that blogging should feel like this awesome house party. Everyone wants to be invited. All those who stumble upon your blog can’t help but subscribe, feeling a bit jealous on you.


I fell in love with blogging long before I ever started my own blog. I accidentally stumbled upon this Romanian journalist’s blog. I’d spend hours and hours reading the comments. The content was okay, but the comments. Oh, man, those were funny. Everyone was having fun, even the terrible internet trolls.

There was a lot of sarcasm, and I’d often laugh out loud at this guy’s replies to someone else’s attempt at trolling them.

Engagement is the name of the game

Sometimes, because of the niche you choose, it’s just impossible to gather a large following. There just aren’t that many people interested in your topic.

But you can make them care. You can show your readers that YOU care, that you are passionate about your topic, and that your expertise is second to none.

And, yes, you can monetize such a blog, sometimes even better than extremely popular blogs.

I’d like to ask you a simple question: are you having fun with your blog? Is there a reader who makes you smile whenever they comment? Are you making friends with other bloggers in your niche?


23 thoughts on “Forget about Numbers for a Moment

  1. Yes, I am havin’ fun. Yes, I love reading the comments of several of my faithful followers… especially Dorothy. I am making friends with people like her and Derrick and Lana. I really appreciate folks like you, Cristian, who in spite of having thousands of followers, take the time to respond, comment, and answer questions. God bless you!

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  2. I have been blogging only for few months now so I’m learning what is interesting for my readers and how to develop an audience. Surely, developing relations with readers is one of the big pluses of blogging on a large platform like WordPress and makes this experience so pleasurable and enriching, monetisation aside.

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  3. Good for me that im actually a bit of a chatterbox! Haha and I like making writer friends so yeah im actually having a good time engaging with my readers and interacting with them about their work.

    Often I get inspired by little things they say that prompt a new story for me. So its actually super helpful whether you were trying to grow your own blog or just your writing period.

    Great post, Cristian. I felt I needed the wake up call and not to fall into the numbers game.

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  4. Having fun is THE most important aspect for me. I’m very glad that I’ve found a small but regular number of people who will consistently revisit my stories to comment & enjoy the stuff I publish – so that’s been incredibly encouraging in releasing new content.

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