Feel Like Giving Up? Read this.

I launched my first blog in January 2011. I had released my first self-published novel on Amazon. I was very excited, and I was sure that I’d soon conquer the world…

I quit after three posts, no views, no comments, no nothing.

Five days into my career as a blogger, I grew bitter and remorseful, felt invisible, decided it was all for nothing, and quit.

This disappointment was so strong that I did not give blogging another try for a solid year. And then, it happened again: I spend the first month posting on a daily basis only to get around 500 views total, and almost no comments at all. Something like 30-40 followers.

This makes you ask yourself questions. You try to find reasons. Your mind plays tricks on you, the same way it would if you would find yourself stranded on a deserted island.

Maybe you are just now starting your blog, maybe you’re thinking about it, or maybe it’s been a while and you’re ready to call it quits.

You thought about it and thought about it and… there’s something holding you back. In fact, a lot of things: you lack the time, the confidence, or the money…

You’re tired, stressed, busy, sick.

Maybe this isn’t for you. Maybe it’s best to wait for some future day, when things won’t be so difficult. I’m sorry to break it to you, but ideal circumstances will never occur.

You will always have to face down the demons of no time, no support, no money, no confidence, no ideas, or ill health.

And when you realize that almost everyone faces these same problems, your reasons start to look a lot like excuses.

So let’s call them out, one by one.

1. What if people don’t like what I have to say?

Blogging can be so damn personal it feels like walking on the street naked. It’s not just the stories you share, but also the fact that you get attached to your writing.

But like it or not, putting your ideas in the public domain and running the risk that someone might not like them – even hate them – is the price of entry for being a successful blogger. If you think your blogging heroes aren’t nervous each time they click “Publish” then you’re kidding yourself.

But putting yourself out there means you’ll attract a crowd of like-minded readers.

Yes, you may have to deal with haters. Everyone does.

And I’ll let you in on a little secret: in time the haters become more amusing than frightening. You’ll realize that while they’re complaining, you’re blogging.

Remember, if someone has a negative reaction to something you wrote, that means your writing is powerful. Your writing provoked a strong emotional reaction.

And that’s a good thing.

2. What if I don’t have anything new to say?

Sometimes you ask yourself this question, sometimes you’re dead certain: there’s nothing new under the sun.

Feeling like you can’t add to the conversation as a new blogger is only natural. But it’s not just about what you say, but rather how only you can say it.

The truth is that genuinely original ideas are rare…

But you know what is unique?

Your personality, writing style, and opinions, all mixed up and delivered in the most concise and smart manner possible.

The more you have the guts to be yourself, the more unique your content will seem to be, and the more your readers will love you for it.

3. What about the competition?

If you spend your time worrying about other people…

Jim Rohn used to say that one should never wish things were easier. You should wish that you were better.

Why would anyone want to read your blog if there are others who are writing about the same topics?

If you do not have the confidence to answer that question, then you should acquire it, loan it, find it, buy it, or sell your soul for it, for without the right mindset and the right attitude, the blogging world will feel like hell.

4. Ain’t nobody got time for that…

Your days are packed. You’re running around from morning till night, and you sure as heck don’t have spare time to work on a blog every day.

Let’s get something straight: we’re all busy. And we all feel like everyone else is just kinda busy, but we’re really, truly, jam-packed busy. But if we all feel like that, we must all be wrong. Right?

Successful bloggers are just as busy as you are, if not more so. The guy you’re so jealous of who churns out post after post doesn’t have a trust fund and a maid. Like you, he has a job, a family, volunteer commitments, pets, school functions, chores… the list goes on.

It’s all about resolve. About motivation.

Promise yourself that you’ll either find a way or make one.

5. This is too difficult

You make a list of all the tasks that need doing on your blog and become frozen with indecision. Should you work on your blog design, brainstorm some post ideas, build your social media presence, or do one of the other 200 things on your list instead?

It’s enough to make anyone quit in frustration.

Here’s a tip: start anywhere. Seriously.

As long as you do something, anything at all, you’ll be ahead of the game.

As they say in that Nike commercial, just do it.

It’s the only reliable way to break through the paralysis of indecision.

6. Someday…

Maybe you have a chronic illness and don’t want to commit to a blog until you feel better. Or you’re in the middle of a divorce. Or your bank account is empty.

Every time you think about starting your blog, you tell yourself, “It’s not the right time. As soon as I take care of problems X, Y, and Z, I’ll get started.”

But the truth is by the time you’ve fixed X, Y and X, new problems will have taken their places.

So guess what? There’s never a perfect time to do anything.

You want to do it.

Start where you are, do what you can with what you have. Do not dream of accomplishing things, but rather focus on developing the habits that support your blogging.

Funny. What kind of habits do you think you nurture if you keep finding reasons not to blog, excuses, and problems, and you keep postponing?

7. I’m too tired

This excuse doesn’t fly. You know why? Because nothing gives you more energy than working toward a goal you’re passionate about.

So if you’re too tired at the end of the day to work on your goals, the answer isn’t to abandon your goals – it’s to set more exciting ones.

8. What if I fail?

You don’t want to fail. Of course you don’t! No one wants to be rejected, or worse still, ignored.

So, yeah, it’s best not to blog. At all. Ever. That way, you won’t be criticized, you won’t be ignored.

Don’t even start.

But isn’t that just another type of failure?

Wouldn’t the thought of what could’ve been break your heart over and over again?

Think about that the next time you want to quit blogging.

If you try blogging, you have a chance of succeeding and a chance of failing.

If you don’t try, you have a 100% chance of failing.

Which is the less risky choice?

9. I’m not good enough.

Sometimes bloggers even add an “yet” to this frightening thought, and it still doesn’t make much difference.

YET!

What does that mean?

You can learn, you can evolve…

There’s so much to know about blogging! You’re inundated with tips, courses, books…

Not good enough?

Learn.

And let’s not ignore the fact that the absolute best way to learn is from experience: set up your blog and start posting.

10. I don’t have the imagination.

You don’t have the imagination, the inspiration… you can’t come up with that many ideas to write about.

I mean, how can someone blog every single day…

Do they do only that?

Do they live and eat at their desks, in front of their laptops?

Is it really like that?

No, of course not.

The more you blog, the easier it gets. The more you will be able to blog. It’s like going to the gym. Or running. Or anything else in life.

When you set your mind to do something, then inspiration finds you. If you know that you have to blog, and you want to blog, then you’ll come up with ideas.


Mindset is the most important part of being a blogger. Do not focus on what you can’t do, on what could go wrong, but rather focus on what you can do. Focus on the task in front of you, the things you can control, the parts that you enjoy the most.

Do not complain, because no one cares for a crybaby. Ditch the excuses, and punch the damn keys.


Jordan released his short e-book on the type of stuff he’ll be sharing with the folks who enroll in our Blogging Bootcamp, so I decided to share with you one of the pep talks I am most famous for.

Yes, mindset is truly important, and I do hope that you’ll take advantage of the last spot on our bootcamp and enroll. Click here to do so.

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63 thoughts on “Feel Like Giving Up? Read this.

  1. Thanks for the encouragement. I just started my blog less than a week ago, and I’ve been posting regularly – at least one a day, usually more. I’m always trying to improve the posts, too, by adding appropriate media to spice up or give a feel for the post. I’m excited about my growth rate – more followers every day. 😀

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  2. Thank you! This morning, I was looking for positive thoughts. I was craving for motivational words. I was scavenging for answers. I so wanted to give up my TpT store this morning. I so wanted to blame the world for not having tons of followers knocking eagerly at my door. I so wanted to blame myself and my writing for everything that is going wrong in my daily life. Then, I read your post and … BAM! The truth hit me like a drunk driver on revenge. Yes …. excuses, fears, insecurity, impatience, and the wrong mindset are poisonous ants that crawl unexpectedly into your writing.

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  3. Thanks for this pep talk. I found a silver lining after an injury in April left me with extra time to write, so I started a blog. It was scary — and I’m still unsure every time I hit the publish button. But because of my blog I was asked to do a presentation at a local outdoor store. It’s exciting, but even more scary than putting myself out there in a blog!

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  4. Thank you! I actually just released my first book on Amazon a month ago and have been giving this whole blog/website thing a whirl! Some days, I feel great, like I can take on the world. But there are many days I wonder if I am just kidding myself. In the end, you’re right. It’s all about chasing that dream and being persistent. If I give up, I’ll never know if my dream can come true. Thank you for the encouragement!

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  5. I needed to read this thanks! I’m not feeling like giving up, but I’ve certainly had these doubts bubbling in the back of my head. Saving this post to re-read when I’m needing encouragement to keep at it.

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  6. Enjoyed reading this post though I know already I’m definitely not giving up on blogging anytime soon. I just don’t see myself not blogging anymore because I enjoy it so much. Yes, I know I’m currently unable to blog every day because I never have that many ideas, but I just love it so much I can’t see myself quitting anytime soon.

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  7. Timing is so important, and I needed to read this at this time. Thanks so much for the encouraging, motivating, and coaching I needed to re-orient my mind from uncomfortable thoughts of quitting to persevering.

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  8. Reblogged this on Book Reviews & Musings and commented:
    Whether you will admit it or not, there are some of you who question yourself when it comes to blogging. You battle with the same issues or excuses as Cristian Mihai addresses in his blog. I know, I’ve been there myself, but I took a step back and thought about what it was I wanted and I asked myself why I needed to blog to get what I wanted. That was all it took for me to “do the hokey pokey and turn myself around.” Pardon the cliché, but it’s what I did. Minus the hokey pokey, I turned myself around.

    I am currently an unpublished writer because I spent twenty-eight years serving my country, but I began writing from the time I could hold a crayon, and I knew one day I would be a published author. I still believe this. However, most professionals will tell you to build a following on social media long before you publish. Yes, there’s Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, etc., but I believed I needed more than what these platforms could offer me, so I thought, “I’ll blog!” I jumped before thinking and started my blog, so don’t feel alone if you did as I did. I felt as if I failed and all the other feelings that Cristian talks about on his blog.

    After I stepped back and considered what I wanted to blog while building a following, I said to myself, “Hey I’m an English major, and that has to count for something” so I decided to become a NetGalley Professional Book Reviewer. Becoming a book reviewer was a win-win for me. Everyone knows the better writers are the well-read writers, so I felt I had the opportunity to discover what works and what does not work as a writer. Yes, it all becomes overwhelming at times keeping up with Twitter, Facebook, reading and writing my book reviews while still finding time to work on my manuscripts. It’s perseverance that keeps me going. I picked that up during the twenty-eight years I served my country.

    I am nowhere close to where I want to be, but I am progressing because I did not give up or quit. My perseverance personality would not allow me to give up, and I will continue to stick it out as I learn along the way. And oh, by the way, there’s always something new to learn. I don’t think about competition, or the number of followers I have because I know they will come in time.

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  9. I have been out of blogging many years now due to chronic illness and really looking forward to getting back into it. Your blog post above is very encouraging to me and makes me feel really excited about getting the flow going, although it is going to take some time. It has been at least since 2010 the last time that I was blogging and at that time it was at blogger.com. I had been blogging for several years and I feel I have since lost some of my touch.

    A couple of days ago I set up a blog site and have got two blog posts up on it. There is one blog post that need to be edited and rewritten slightly, as am not too happy with it. It is the second blog post, as I was not focusing too well on that day.

    I am now following you, and will be keeping up on your great articles.

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  10. Mindset is everything , in every aspect of life. I like the nike motyo “just do it”. I cant renember which post of yours i read, but you said write a1000 words a day, but you dont have to post daily. I think that is wuite an aha monent.

    I did conclude that money and blogging is hard a little while back. I even concluded that blogging is harder than real work.

    Then i always reread my about page to set me straight abiut why i blog.

    Have you always written about blogging? When did you start to write about blogging?

    Loving the wisdom you share.

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  11. Good ideas here – certainly rings true (at least the first part about invisibility! hehe_) I’m just collecting my ideas…feels more like a diary than a public offering at the moment. Much like a private diary that someone might look at occasionally over your shoulder…
    In any case there’s much to be gained by the process I think and your post supports our efforts!

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  12. Great advice…and damn, you just gave me more reasons to not blog that I hadn’t thought about!…just kidding. I haven’t increased my followers exponentially or anything…I’m just being like Dory. Just keep swimming just keep swimming. I know what I write doesn’t appeal to a huge audience…but I love what I write about and am passionate about it. I have to stay true to me. Thank you for all you contribute to the motivation of us all who are still trying to get “there”.

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  13. This resonated with me – have been blogging about workplace bullying and civility since 2014 – similar results. Evaluating how to pivot to something that people care about (and are willing to purchase).

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