How to Become The Blogger

What if I were to tell you there’s an actual step by step guide to becoming The Blogger? Would you believe me?

Would you invest a few minutes of your time to read it?

Be careful though. This is the kind of stuff that has the potential of transforming your life.

We’re talking about some Tony Robbins walking on fire kind of stuff.

Life changing.

You’re not going to be a blogger after reading this.


You’re not going to be just another blogger.

You’re going to be The Blogger. The boss at blogging. The artist. The best of the best.

 Step 1: No expectations. But some big, big dreams.

Even though you’re not sure how this blogging thing actually works, you decide to give it a try. You choose some catchy titles for your posts.

No one knows you exist yet, but you pretend you’re eight years old again and dream big. Even when it makes no sense, still dream big. Friends and family won’t understand why you’re doing it and that’s okay. What matters is you’re exploring your own ideas and feelings.

“What matters is most is that you write from the heart.”

  Step 2: Fail. Like really fail.

You pour your heart and soul into writing the best blog post ever written. It’s got all the right ingredients for it to go viral.

You’re already fantasizing about hundreds of comments, all of them thanking you for existing.

Your words are going to change the world. This gives you the kind of chills that makes you want to punch the damn keyboard until keys start flying all around you.

You write the post. Click on the publish thingy. It’s going to be far better than you can imagine.

But it’s not.

You never get quite more than a few views. Maybe a couple of comments. That’s it.

All that time and effort and for what?

Step 3: Never, ever, ever give up.

Whenever you have time, refuse to do anything other than work on your blog. Resist the temptation to watch funny cat videos on YouTube and start writing and formatting articles. Spend hours trying to find the right photo for each piece you write because you care about your (as of yet) non-existent readers.

You read about blogging. You think about blogging. You dream about blogging.

If there’s some rule or piece of advice on blogging you haven’t read yet, it’s probably because it hasn’t been written yet.

After all, you know that personal development is essential to any pursuit in life, including blogging.

 Step 4: Here come the haters. Whatcha’ gonna do?

As you release more and more content online, a few haters find their way to your work.

Take the relevant feedback and delete everything else they say from your mind. Resist the temptation to reply with a nasty comment, block them, or dwell on their ideas.

Haters come and haters go.Their problem is with themselves, not with you.

Step 5: Keep going…

After the first six months, not much has happened. The vast majority of your work will be ignored or be invisible to most. Keep going.

Despite all the negative thoughts in your head about why you suck at blogging, or have nothing valuable to say, or look ridiculous in professionally shot bio photos, keep going.

Step 6: Realize you still need to keep going…

After another six months go by, watch the same nothingness transpire and still keep going.

Even when it seems like no one gives a damn about your blog, keep going  — they will, trust me.

 Step 7: Overcome your desire to fit in.

After one year of no one giving a damn about your stuff, you just say “fuck it”!

You’re going to write what you want, when you want, how you want.

If you feel like swearing, you do. If you feel like sharing embarrassing stories, you do. You talk about the issues that you know might irritate some people.

You can almost hear every single person who gave a damn about you whisper in your ear: “Be nice. Just be nice.”

But you say fuck it, and write what you want.

Writing becomes a process of self-discovery. You stop giving a fuck about what people think about you.

 Step 8: Follow someone you want to be.

You find the kind of blog you wished to have written into existence. The blogger you want to be like. Follow them on their social media channels and consume their content.

Surround yourself only with the kind of content that inspires your own work and creativity. Become obsessed with becoming better each day.

 Step 9: Go viral with a post that took 15 minutes to write.

Come home from work one night, tired and hangry, and realized it’s been two days since you posted. You don’t want to, but you have to write something. Just write anything that comes to your mind.

Keep it raw, ignore some basic grammar rules, and post it straight away. Assume it’s going to flop and move on.

Wake up the next day and watch how the one post you never had faith in become your most loved post so far.

“Understand in that moment that imperfection, authenticity, and vulnerability are the building blocks of blogging.”

Step 10: Draw the map to the most hidden treasures of your soul.

You write about the things that set your soul on fire. The stuff that keeps you from falling asleep at night.

The stuff you wish everyone knew.

You write about the things that broke your heart, the things that you could never forget even if you were to live a thousand lives.

Before you start writing a new blog post, you rummage through your brain for ideas until it starts to hurt. You unlock the most hidden drawers of your soul, and decide to write about whatever you find inside.

You write about the things that changed your life, and somehow you change other people’s lives as well.

The haters have all but gone now.

You received fan mail. People tell you that the stuff you write is beautiful.

You never thought about it that way.

You just write because bleeding out in public is frowned upon.

Step 11: Never give up.

You wake up one morning, stare yourself in the mirror, smile and decide: you’re never going to give this up.

Why would you?

You’re now The Blogger. You’re now using words to describe what everyone else has felt, yet never managed to translate into sentences.

You’re The Blogger. You’re the one who tells it how it is, not how we all wished it were.

 Being The Blogger is about more than just blogging.

Through all of the struggles, your blogging career will eventually happen once you find out who you are and the value that you bring to the world.

Life experience only makes your blogging better and there’s a story in almost everything that happens to you.

Remember the following from now on:

  • Be proud of your struggles
  • Never fall for the delusion of overnight success
  • Focus, succeed, and focus again
  • Keep blogging and make it a habit

If you want to be The Blogger, then understand it’s about more than just blogging, feature photos, secret blogging hacks, morning habits, and social media influencers.

Being The Blogger is all about you.

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36 thoughts on “How to Become The Blogger

  1. I am really enjoying your content! I don’t have any plans of becoming “The Blogger” but I find your tips extremely helpful regardless! I also admire how informative/dense but easy to read your blog is! I’ve definitely already followed one of your tips without knowing. Follow the blogger you want to be!

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  2. Super inspirational for the beginning blogger. Everyone has rough days but that one ‘win’ (gaining a new subscriber, comment, like, etc.) makes it all worth it. Just keep going xx

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    1. You’re right. I have wanted to give up a few times during my six year journey, but there was always someone who wrote a nice comment, or sent me an e-mail, and that kept me going. I realized that blogging wasn’t only about me, but also about others, and the way I was influencing them. If I could inspire one other person, than it was worth it.

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  3. I like your blogs a lot. Fundamental knowledge made very accessible. “Do not try to fit in”, I try to live by this, but where it works on one part, unconsciously I am trying to fit in on the other hand. Such an easy trap with the “like” culture. Keep ‘m coming, those informative posts!

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  4. Really good post. I have a tendency to give up after those 12 months but now I have reached the phase where I don’t give a damn any more so maybe it will last forever this time. At least I feel good after writing so it has a good purpose. Thank you for this!

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  5. Wooooo! What an interesting, engaging, straight-forward post. Thanks so much for taking the time to write and share this.


  6. As a beginner in blogging Its really really really hard to start… When you really don’t know from where and what you’re gonna write about! And reading these kinda content really helps a person like me to just push and start anything that we think is worth sharing ☺ so thank you for this

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  7. this is so inspiring!! I have recently started my blog and It’s all a steep learning curve. Your posts are motivating me to keep working hard and producing creative content! Thank you !

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  8. Great article, I started my blog back in November 2017 and have written about 15 posts so far. As I was reading. your article, it took me back at various times during my journey as a blogger. I actually faced all these steps in my journey. Just the viral part eludes me, but I won’t give up. More for the love for writing than the fame and recognition.

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  9. I’ve been blogging for nearly 10 years. I reckon I’m still in some of those mid-stages and fluctuate back or forward depending on what’s going on. I’d like to say it’s not the stats that affect my motivation but they do.

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