What to Do About Haters

“Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain… and most fools do.”Dale Carnegie

Blog long enough and at some point someone’s going to have something to say about something you’ve written, and they might strongly disagree with your views, or your sense of humor, or even the way you write.

Depending on the way they let you know that they hate your blog, you might want to punch them in the throat, give up on blogging, or even go live on a deserted island.

The truth is that criticism is just a part of life. Whenever you do or say something, some folks will be critical.

After all, what you’d choose? To be hated by some, or to be ignored by everyone?

We all know the answer to that question, so here are the best ways to go about haters hating on your stuff.

1. Enjoy it.

“So what?”

This is my favorite thing to do whenever something bad happens.\

So what?

Someone hates your writing? So what?

What’s so tragic about it?

Did you die?

No?

Then why are you upset about it?

Your blog is being read and people are talking about it – isn’t that what you wanted?

2. There’s no right or wrong.

You wrote about your experience, your perspective and your ideas, and that’s just as it should be. Whoever criticized your writing (whether in a constructive or destructive way) is talking from their point of view, which is based on their experience. And that’s just fine too.

Everyone looks at ‘reality’ through a filter based on what they’ve learned, and this filter puts a unique spin on everything you see and experience in the world.

That means that every opinion is valid, nobody’s right and it’s okay for people to disagree with you. Kind of gets you off the hook doesn’t it?

3. Some folks just don’t get it.

Believe it or not but some folks out there are idiots. Some folks are struggling, others are bitter and some others are just plain angry.

Some people will read what you’ve written, fly off the handle and spew abuse for the simple reason that they can.

Criticizing your writing is especially easy online as it’s an instant medium.

This isn’t personal and it isn’t even about your words – it’s about them and where they are in life.

4. Let it go.

Be sure to notice when you feel that piece of criticism being internalized and interrupt it.

Your work’s out there and it can’t be changed, and sometimes the very best thing to do is let it go and start on your next idea.

Or, as Andy Warhol said about art, “Don’t think about making art, just get it done. Let everyone else decide if it’s good or bad, whether they love it or hate it. While they are deciding, make even more art.”


Got a few haters?

Good.

It means you had the guts to tell it the way you see it. You stood up for something.

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23 thoughts on “What to Do About Haters

  1. The thing is that I kind of disagree with your points except for the last one. Yeah, we might get hateful comments, but rather than making people bad in our eyes, we should take the comments into our consideration and help improve our own blog. Also, if they do criticise, it’s their bad, not yours.❤️ I’m not criticising, just sharing my view. Have a good day.

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  2. Great advice!! I wish I was good at brushing off any haters. It usually bothers me right down to my soul LOL … but yes, I want people to read my blog and therefore if there are haters, then that does at least mean they read it!

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  3. I really enjoy your writing and thanks for your post on what to do about haters. It’s excellent advice.

    I just started following you and also reposted this post as part of today’s post on my own blog, thedailymormon.com.

    Thanks again and keep up the great work!

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  4. Great post. Haters, bullies, critics, or whatever you call them … they are always going to be there.

    I bought a new car to celebrate my success in school and my promotion at work two years ago. I never thought I too much about haters until I drove a new car. People, especially dudes, try to mess with me on the road all the time.

    A few months ago I dealt with a hater issue that I thought was just a random road rage hater… it was deeper than that! Turned out this person worked in the same office as me! The person was following me on the road and trying to mess with me. Multiple times. It’s a longer story that I am not going to go deep into, but it was a struggle to get through and move past. At the end of the day if you don’t move past it they win! I didn’t even personally know this person and they do not personally know me. It’s just an old dude who is jealous of a younger dude who is doing better than him! Freakin haters …

    Know that either way, haters exist, and haters are going to hate. They are haters, it’s what they do.

    Know this, when you have haters, it tells you that you are doing something right in life most of the time. Haters are reacting from jealousy. If you were not succeeding, why would they be jealous?

    Use a hater a guide to look back at your life. Maybe you are doing things that make you look like a jerk. If so, take a real honest look inward and make an adjustment. I did.

    I had to do a lot of personal soul-searching to move past the issue with this person in my office. It was especially disturbing to me because I work very hard on “My Brand” at the office. In my search in-ward, I couldn’t think of anything I did to cause the issue above. Sometimes dudes are just messed up too and that’s why they hate. Haters are gonna hate!

    Ultimately my way of moving past it is knowing that the best revenge is massive success! And taking steps every day in the direction of that massive success. Haters are there to push us to the next level.

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  5. The weirdest hater I got just went to a post on my blog to comment with “you’re illiterate”. I just sat there and tried to figure out how they got that I’m illiterate from… a blog… in which I write… words.

    I then laughed and let it go unanswered, because well, what even? (It turned out to be a follower from another blogger who thought we were ‘rivals’. We were actually friends and even worked together on a collaborative blog)

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