“Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain… and most fools do.” – Dale Carnegie
Blog long enough and at some point someone’s going to have something to say about something you’ve written, and they might strongly disagree with your views, or your sense of humor, or even the way you write.
Depending on the way they let you know that they hate your blog, you might want to punch them in the throat, give up on blogging, or even go live on a deserted island.
The truth is that criticism is just a part of life. Whenever you do or say something, some folks will be critical.
After all, what you’d choose? To be hated by some, or to be ignored by everyone?
We all know the answer to that question, so here are the best ways to go about haters hating on your stuff.
1. Enjoy it.
This is my favorite thing to do whenever something bad happens.\
Someone hates your writing? So what?
What’s so tragic about it?
Did you die?
Then why are you upset about it?
Your blog is being read and people are talking about it – isn’t that what you wanted?
2. There’s no right or wrong.
You wrote about your experience, your perspective and your ideas, and that’s just as it should be. Whoever criticized your writing (whether in a constructive or destructive way) is talking from their point of view, which is based on their experience. And that’s just fine too.
Everyone looks at ‘reality’ through a filter based on what they’ve learned, and this filter puts a unique spin on everything you see and experience in the world.
That means that every opinion is valid, nobody’s right and it’s okay for people to disagree with you. Kind of gets you off the hook doesn’t it?
3. Some folks just don’t get it.
Believe it or not but some folks out there are idiots. Some folks are struggling, others are bitter and some others are just plain angry.
Some people will read what you’ve written, fly off the handle and spew abuse for the simple reason that they can.
Criticizing your writing is especially easy online as it’s an instant medium.
This isn’t personal and it isn’t even about your words – it’s about them and where they are in life.
4. Let it go.
Be sure to notice when you feel that piece of criticism being internalized and interrupt it.
Your work’s out there and it can’t be changed, and sometimes the very best thing to do is let it go and start on your next idea.
Or, as Andy Warhol said about art, “Don’t think about making art, just get it done. Let everyone else decide if it’s good or bad, whether they love it or hate it. While they are deciding, make even more art.”
Got a few haters?
It means you had the guts to tell it the way you see it. You stood up for something.